1. Under the Revised Penal Code, adultery cannot be committed by the husband; it is a crime committed by the wife and her paramour. 2. Concubinage is committed by a husband in several ways: (a) by keeping a mistress in the conjugal dwelling, (b) by having sexual intercourse under scandalous circumstances with a woman who is not his wife; or (c) by cohabiting with his mistress in any other place. 3. If a husband wants to file an adultery case against his wife, he must also charge the paramour. In the same way, a wife must file the case for concubinage against her husband and his mistress; she cannot charge the mistress alone. 4. The heaviest penalty for adultery is imprisonment of six years (for the wife and her paramour). On the other hand, the heaviest penalty for concubinage is four years and two months (for the husband) and “destierro” or exile (for his mistress). 5. Since concubinage is difficult to prove in court, the wife should instead file a case of psychological violence due to marital infidelity under RA 9262. 6. The penalty for “psychological violence” under RA 9262 is a minimum of six years up to twelve years of imprisonment. The maximum penalty is imposed if the violence is committed by the husband or the intimate partner against the woman when she is pregnant or in the presence of their children. 7. Implications of the Supreme Court ruling on conspiracy in “Sharica Go-Tan case”: Can you file an RA 9262 case against your unfaithful husband AND his mistress? 8. Update as of December 2, 2018: House Bill No. 8604 seeks to remove the crimes of adultery and concubinage from the Revised Penal Code and to replace them with the crime of “sexual infidelity.” The Philippine Commission on Women recommends the decriminalizing of adultery and concubinage. |
Adultery cannot be committed by the husband; it is a crime committed by the wife and her paramour
The Revised Penal Code defines adultery in Article 333: “Adultery is committed by any married woman who shall have sexual intercourse with a man not her husband and by the man who has carnal knowledge of her knowing her to be married, even if the marriage be subsequently declared void. Adultery shall be punished by prision correccional in its medium and maximum periods.”
What is the penalty for adultery?
The medium period of the penalty for adultery ranges from 2 years, 4 months and one day to 4 years and 2 months imprisonment. The maximum period ranges from to 4 years, 2 months and one day to 6 year imprisonment. Simply stated, the longest time a wife will be imprisoned is 6 years.
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The Revised Penal Code defines and penalizes “concubinage” in Article 334: “Any husband who shall keep a mistress in the conjugal dwelling, or shall have sexual intercourse, under scandalous circumstances, with a woman who is not his wife, or shall cohabit with her in any other place, shall be punished by prision correccional in its minimum and medium periods.”
A husband commits concubinage in several ways:
(1) by keeping a mistress in the conjugal dwelling,What is the penalty for concubinage?
(2) by having sexual intercourse under scandalous circumstances with a woman who is not his wife; or
(3) by cohabiting with his mistress in any other place.
For the husband, the penalty of “prision correccional” in its minimum period is imprisonment from 6 months and one day to 2 years and 4 months. In its medium period, the penalty is from 2 years, 4 months, and one day to 4 years and 2 months. Simply stated, the longest time that a husband will be imprisoned is 4 years and 2 months.
On the other hand, the penalty for the mistress is “destierro” (exile), not imprisonment.
Why is concubinage difficult to prove in court?
In order to charge her husband with concubinage, the wife has to prove that he has committed any or all of the three acts mentioned above.
With number (1) above, I think you will agree with me that only a few men would dare to bring or allow his mistress to live in the conjugal dwelling. Not unless, of course, if the wife allows it for whatever reason …
As to number (2) above, an adulterous affair by its nature is done in secret; a man and his paramour cannot be expected to have sexual intercourse under scandalous circumstances.
Now, number (3) above. If a wife seeks legal help in filing a case for concubinage, lawyers will ask her for evidence that proves cohabitation. The evidence may be receipts for the apartment where the man and mistress are living, receipts for Meralco and PLDT, and affidavits of eyewitnesses that the man and mistress are really cohabiting, etc.
If the evidence merely proves that the husband is having an extra-marital affair, he cannot be charged with concubinage.
If the other woman gets pregnant and gives birth, can it be used as evidence for concubinage against the husband? No, the pregnancy is not necessarily proof of cohabitation. Why? Again, please take note of how concubinage is committed as I discussed under numbers (1) up to (3) above.
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Inequalities in the law and discrimination against women
The provisions of the Revised Penal Code are stacked against the wife. If she commits even just one case of marital infidelity, she, along with the paramour, can be immediately charged criminally.
But the husband who commits numerous acts of marital infidelity cannot be sued by his wife for adultery (since under Article 333, adultery is a crime committed by the wife and her paramour). The philandering husband must be sued under Article 334 for concubinage. The problem is, concubinage is much more difficult to prove in court.
What’s the reason for this inequality — the heavier penalty for the wife — under the Revised Penal Code? Well, the law seeks to prevent the introduction of spurious heirs into the family, which can happen in adultery, not in concubinage.
Because concubinage is difficult to prove in court, it’s better to file a case of psychological violence under RA 9262
Can you file a case of conspiracy to commit RA 9262 against your unfaithful husband AND his mistress? “Sharica Mari Go-Tan vs. Spouses Perfecto Tan and Juanita Tan” G.R. No. 168852, September 30, 2008 Background facts: After six years of marriage and two children, Sharica filed an RA 9262 case against her husband Steven and her parents-in-law Perfecto and Juanita Tan. She also asked the Quezon City Regional Trial Court Branch 94 to issue a TPO (Temporary Protection Order) against her husband and her parents-in-law; she alleged that, in conspiracy with her parents-in-law, Steven was causing verbal, psychological, and economic abuses upon her. In their defense, the parents-in-law claimed that they cannot be charged with violation of RA 9262 because Section 3 of that law explicitly provides that the offender should be related to the victim only by marriage, a former marriage, or a dating or sexual relationship. The Regional Trial Court ruled in favor of the parents-in-law. Sharica thus appealed to the Supreme Court. Issues raised by Sharica before the Supreme Court: Sharica claimed that RA 9262 must be understood in the light of the provisions of Section 47 of RA 9262 which explicitly provides for the suppletory application of the Revised Penal Code (RPC). Accordingly, the provision on “conspiracy” under Article 8 of the RPC can be applied to RA 9262. Sharica claimed that Steven and her parents-in-law had “community of design and purpose in tormenting her by giving her insufficient financial support; harassing and pressuring her to be ejected from the family home; and in repeatedly abusing her verbally,emotionally, mentally, and physically.” Supreme Court ruling: The Court ruled in Sharica’s favor; it stated that the provisions of the Revised Penal Code can be applied suppletorily to RA 9262. Thus, her parents-in-law can be charged as co-conspirators with her husband Steven. Implications of the Sharica Go-Tan ruling on conspiracy: If you’re an abused or abandoned wife, you can file an RA 9262 case against both your unfaithful husband and his mistress. With the proper proof, you can claim that the abusive acts that your husband committed against you were done in conspiracy with his mistress. (This means that, if convicted, the penalty for your unfaithful husband will also be the penalty for his mistress.) Consult your lawyer about the kind of proof that you need. |
RA 9262 defines psychological violence as:
“acts or omissions causing or likely to cause mental or emotional suffering of the victim such as but not limited to intimidation, harassment, stalking, damage to property, public ridicule or humiliation, repeated verbal abuse and marital infidelity. It includes causing or allowing the victim to witness the physical, sexual or psychological abuse of a member of the family to which the victim belongs, or to witness pornography in any form or to witness abusive injury to pets or to unlawful or unwanted deprivation of the right to custody and/or visitation of common children.”
What is the penalty for “psychological violence” under RA 9262?
The penalty for “psychological violence” is a minimum of six years up to twelve years of imprisonment. The maximum penalty is imposed if the violence is committed by the intimate partner against the woman when she is pregnant or in the presence of the common children.
(For a detailed discussion on what psychological violence is, please read “Hope and help for the battered woman (4): Emotional abuse/psychological violence in my Salt and Light blog.)
Government offices where women can ask for help
For RA 9262 and other cases involving women, you can ask for help from the following:
Department of Social Welfare and Development (DSWD) Crisis Intervention Unit (CIU) Rehabilitation Unit Tel. No.: (02) 734-8635 NCR Ugnayang Pag-asa, Legarda, Manila Tel. Nos.: (02) 734-8617 to 18Is there life or hope after an extramarital affair?
Philippine National Police (PNP) Women and Children’s Concern Division (WCCD) Tel. No.: (02) 723-0401 loc. 3480 Call or text 117 (PATROL 117)
National Bureau of Investigation (NBI) Violence Against Women and Children’s Desk (VAWCD) Tel. Nos.: (02) 523-8231 loc. 3403
DOJ Public Attorney’s Office Women's Desk
Tel. Nos.: (02) 929-9010; 929-9436 to 37
Philippine General Hospital (PGH) Women’s Desk Tel. Nos.: (02) 524-2990; 521-8450 loc. 3816
Women’s Crisis Center Women and Children Crisis Care & Protection Unit – East Avenue Medical Center (WCCCPU-EAMC) Tel. Nos.: (02) 926-7744; 922-5235
Please read my Salt and Light blog articles on the issue of marital infidelity:
Surviving Marital InfidelityUpdates as of December 2, 2018:
The grass is not greener on the other side
“Sad Movies Always Make Me Cry”
Marital infidelity: causes, consequences and conclusions
Priceless counsel from a bargain sale book: “How to save your marriage alone”
A. House Bill No. 8604 (filed by DIWA party-list representative Pepito M. Pico on November 19, 2018) seeks to remove the crimes of adultery and concubinage from the Revised Penal Code and to replace them with the crime of “sexual infidelity.”
Under House Bill No. 8604:
1. “Sexual infidelity” is committed by the unfaithful spouse — either the husband or the wife — with a paramour.
2. The penalty for the unfaithful husband or wife is “prision correccional” in its minimum period (from 6 months and one day to 2 years and 4 months).
3. When the unfaithful husband or wife keeps the paramour in the conjugal dwelling, the penalty is “prision correccional” in its maximum period (from 4 years, 2 months, and 1 day to 6 years).
4. The penalty for the unfaithful husband or wife will be the same penalty for the paramour.
B. “Eliminating Discrimination Against Women in the Revised Penal Code (RPC): Decriminalizing Adultery and Concubinage” by the Philippine Commission on Women:
Adultery and concubinage should be decriminalized or removed from the RPC since they involve violation of marriage contract, hence, liability should only be civil in nature. Taking off adultery and concubinage from the criminal offenses should however, still have the following legal effects:
1. Adultery and concubinage are still unlawful under the Family Code (civil matter), so an aggrieved/offended/victimized spouse can still file for legal separation on the ground of sexual infidelity, or a possible manifestation of psychological incapacity as a ground for declaration of nullity of a marriage;
2. Marital infidelity (concubinage) will continue to be one of the manifestations of psychological violence against women under RA 9262 (Anti-Violence Against Women and Their Children Act), a special law that protects women and their children from abuses and violence by their intimate partners;
3. Sexual infidelity (adultery or concubinage) will continue to be one of the bases for an aggrieved/offended/victimized spouse to sue for ordinary damages under the Civil Code (i.e. psychological pain and suffering) against the offending/guilty spouse and the third party involved.
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 372 of 372worried sis,
Against your brother, the legal wife can file either a case of concubinage under the Revised Penal Code OR psychological violence under RA 9262.
I doubt if any criminal case can be filed against you and your mother.
You should ask your lawyer or the PAO to help you submit an Affidavit of Desistance (with the fiscal if the preliminary investigation is ongoing, or with the court if the case is already with the court).
Usually, in that kind of affidavit, the reason given for withdrawing the case is “misapprehension of facts.” This means that you made a mistake regarding the facts. Your wife can thus use this Affidavit of Desistance to prevent the refilling of the SAME case.
If she commits another act of adultery later on however, that will not be covered by the Affidavit of Desistance you signed. The affidavit does not give her the freedom to engage in FUTURE adulterous acts.
In terms of a criminal case, it will be difficult to file against them, or even to prove their guilt. A civil case for damages may be possible.
Your wife can file against you either concubinage under the Revised Penal Code or psychological violence under RA 9262.
Text messages can be used as evidence. However, if you do not have the SIM card from where these text messages came from, it can be easily claimed that the text messages were manufactured or forged.
As to support or inheritance, please read my posts on RA 9262, Protection Orders and financial support.
good day atty. galacio,
i had an affair before with a married guy. we had a son and he's carrying his father's surname. may i know if the birth certificate of my baby can be used as evidence alone for concubinage case against me and the guy? thank you.
The Revised Penal Code defines concubinage as follows: “(1) Any husband who shall keep a mistress in the conjugal dwelling, or (2) shall have sexual intercourse, under scandalous circumstances, with a woman who is not his wife, or (3) shall cohabit with her in any other place, shall be punished by prision correccional in its minimum and medium periods.”
By itself, the birth certificate is not evidence to prove any of the three ways by which concubinage can be committed. If you and the man lived together (that is what “cohabit means”), then you can be charged with concubinage.
attorney good day to you.. tatanong ko lng po pwede ko pa b idemanda ng of anti RA (i forgot the numbers.. sorry) sumthing asawa ko kahit may agreement n kami sa sustento.. just to rattle him a bit or prevent him from doing it again.. thanx..pls do reply
You are referring to RA 9262. Please read my posts about this law (look for the links in the sidebar). If you are going to file a case, it should NOT be for the purpose of just scaring your husband but for pursuing your legal rights. The courts and our fiscals do not look kindly on cases that are filed merely to harass people.
If your husband is not supporting you, then by all means you should vigorously pursue an RA 9262 case against him. You can ask a lawyer (from the Public Attorneys Office or from the Integrated Bar of the Philippines free legal service) to draft a demand letter for you. If your husband does not comply with his legal obligations to you, then you should file the proper petition, but not simply to scare your husband.
thanx po... dahil po ba nakipag agreement n ako sa kanya sa susutento di ko na sya pwde demanda regarding sa pang babae nya? ginawa
RA 9262 defines several kinds of violence against women. In terms of financial support, the crime is economic abuse. In terms of marital infidelity, the crime is psychological violence. You can still file a case of psychological violence against your husband.
Atty., I would like to ask about our situation (my mom and me) hope you could help us.. My parents are married for 28 years now and still living together in the same house. 8 years ago, my father had an affair with an unmarried woman and had a child who is 8 y.o now and acknowledged by my dad. My mom and I accepted my sister with no questions asked and still tried to work things out just to save our family. I am still hurting until now and tried to be strong for my mom.. but now I think it is too much. The shame we experienced since before has gone very far. The affair of my dad and her woman has been displayed to many people. Atty., I would like to ask if we could file a case against the woman alone and spare my dad? but if it takes two to tango, what cases can my mom file? and is there a chance I could file a case against them too? Thank you very much.
hello po attorney. i've been married for almost 4 years already.but it was just a year ago when I found out that my husband is having an affair to other woman.just wanna ask if i can use as evidence for filing concubinage the sex videos of my husband and his other woman who was taken by my husband himself in his cellphone which I copied to my computer? If yes, is that sex videos will serves a strong evidence if I will file a concubinage case to him and his other woman?What other strong evidences I can use in order for me to file concubinage?Hope you can answer this and help me.Masyado po ko nasaktan nang makita ko ung mga sex videos nila sa celfone mismo ng asawa ko.
Looking forward to your answer.More Power!!
As I discussed in this post, it is much better to file a case for “psychological violence” under RA 9262 rather than “concubinage” under the Revised Penal Code. Besides, the penalty is higher for “psychological violence” (six years minimum up to a maximum of twelve years) compared to concubinage (four years only).
The sex videos can be presented as evidence as long as you can prove that they have not been tampered with or “doctored.”
Hello Atty. Galacio, I went abroad in 1997, after my first vacation to our country my company sent me to europe for training. I made a decision not to go back to middle east after the training because of same reason many ofw endures. I made this decision with the knowledge of my wife. We have 2 children and at the time they where living with my in-laws. I was illegal in europe and has no permanent job, but i make it a point to fulfill my responsibilities and obligation to my children by sending money to them whenever i earned money. Life is not easy if you don't have working permit. This kind of situation causes the breakup of my marriage, were separated. After 3 years of hardship finally 2002 i got a job and went back home in order to process my visa and working permit. Before i left manila i took an apartment for my children to leave at and send support to them every month. After 2 years of doing this i stop sending money to her (wife) because i learned from my family that she has a lover. My support to my children did not stop hear instead i directed sending the money to my mother and she do the necessary thing to my children. At the present, the lover and my wife are living together with my children on the same apartment. I want to file a case again her but the problem is that i am presently working in abroad. And what case do i charge her and how? She also threatens me that she already filed a case of abandonment against me, does she have the right to do this? How do i know if she really filed a case? Can i be charge of RA 9262? Please give me your kind advice, thank you in advance.
1. Under our system of justice, venue is jurisdictional. Meaning the criminal complaint must be filed in the place where the crime took place. So if your wife is living in Quezon City for example when the abandonment or violation of RA 9262 took place, the case will be filed there. You can check with the administrative section of the fiscal’s office (of the place where your wife might have filed the case). The administrative section has alphabetical and chronological records of all cases filed with it. In your request for verification, you can give your name as respondent and the name of your wife as complainant.
2. If and when a case is filed against you with the fiscal’s office, you will be sent a summons to file your Counter-Affidavit at your last known address here in the Philippines. During the preliminary investigation, you can present your evidence.
God Bless you Atty. Galacio, thank you for your quick reply on my question dated Nov. 21, 2008 at 5:17 pm. I would like to follow-up my question about which case should I file against my wife ( we are not legally separated nor annulled ) for having brought his man to my apartment. Can I sue her even though I'm outside the country. What do I need to pursue this case? I am afraid that the man he is living with is a known drug addict and has been to jail. I fear about the safety of my children, they are both girl's age 13 and 10. Can I ask the help of our foreign representative here abroad? Thank you again in advance, Mabuhay ka!!!
Dear Atty,
Greetings and may you have a good day. I was just wondering about child custody in an adultery case. I am a husband who just found out about my wife's infidelity. I'm planning to file a case against her soon and if all goes well for me, hopefully my wife will be jailed. I'm wondering now who will have custody of our 2yr and 10 month daughter. I really do hope that the judicial system sides with me on this on too.
Thanks in advance, God Bless
Mark
If and when your wife is convicted, you will have custody of your child.
Good Day po Atty.
Pwede po ba ang pardon para sa asawa ko kung sakali man na masintensyahan siya ng sa kasong isinampa ko sa kanya adultery? Kung ipapardon ko po sya pati ba ang kinakasama nyang lalaki ay makakalabas din? Nagsampa na po ako ng kaso laban sa aking asawa ng Adultery pero may anak po kami naawa rin ako pero gusto ko na magtanda sya..at gusto kong yung lalaki lng ang makulong..Pwede po bang kung mapatunayan man sila nagkasala at kung makulong man ang asawa ko kahit six months ay pwede bang gawin ang pardon? nalilito po ako sana matulungan nyo ako..salamat
Your pardon by itself will not be accepted by the court. Any withdrawal of the charges must be made through your affidavit of desistance or “pag-uurong ng demanda”. The affidavit must be filed BEFORE the court hands down its decision. After the court has rendered its decision, the desistance will not have any effect anymore. Your wife and her paramour will go to jail unless they are qualified for probation. The only pardon that will be effective is that given by the President of the Philippines.
In an affidavit of desistance, the usual reason is “misapprehension of facts.” This means that you were wrong or were mistaken in how you appraised the situation and that probably the crime never happened. This means that the desistance will also benefit the paramour (the adulterous partner).
Please take note that with some judges, an affidavit of desistance will not be accepted once the prosecution has already presented its evidence.
Sir,
Lima po kami mag kakapatid, at lahat po kami ay may kanya-kanya ng pamilya. Noong 2007 lang po namatay ang mother ko., Ngayon po may kinakasama na po siyang babae at kasama pa ung mga anak nito sa totoo niyang asawa., iniwan nya po ito (asawa) at sumama sa father ko. Ask me lang po kung pano gagawin namin kung sakaling bigyan ng father ko ng properties ung kinakasama nya ngayon, di ba po conjugal property un ng magulang ko? Pwede po ba ebenta ng father ko ung mga ari-arian namin without our permission? May habol po ba kmi kung sakali mangayari un? Worry po kami kc may edad na rin po tatay ko, at bata pa ung babae.
Your advice is highly appreciated.
Thank you and God Bless.
Yours,
Tina
Tina,
As of the time your mother died in 2007, your father, you and your siblings should have settled the estate of your mother, either judicially or extrajudicially. If there are no disagreements among the heirs, then you can just ask a notary public to prepare the deed of extrajudicial settlement, pay the estate taxes and if there real property involved, coordinate with the Register of Deeds for the transfer of the title/s.
Since your father is involved now with another woman, you should take steps to protect your interests. Please take note that the Family Code provides that before any case between family members can be filed in court, there must be earnest efforts at a compromise. If your father does not want to settle your mother’s estate extrajudicially, then you and your siblings will be forced to file for a judicial settlement of estate.
Please take note that within 30 days from the time your mother died, you should have filed with the BIR a notice of death. You are also required to pay the estate tax of 20% of the value of the properties left by your mother (subject to deductions like funeral expenses, expenses for the last hospitalization, etc). If you have not done these things, then there will be penalties to be paid.
You should retain as of now the services of a lawyer to help you file for a judicial settlement of your mother’s estate.
what if nagkaanak yung lalake sa mistress, masasabi pa rin bang mahirap i-prove yung concubinage?
"what if nagkaanak yung lalake sa mistress, masasabi pa rin bang mahirap i-prove yung concubinage?"
Yes, mahirap pa rin. This is because of the ways by which concubinage is committed as provided for by The Revised Penal Code. Just because the mistress got pregnant does not prove cohabitation or even having sexual intercourse under scandalous circumstances.
Please read my next reply below.
Hazel,
Are you sure you want this matter discussed here where people can read your profile? I deleted your comment so that other people cannot see your profile.
In order to convict a man of any crime (under the Revised Penal Code or special laws), you must be able to prove each and every element which constitutes the crime. As I discussed in this post, concubinage is committed by “Any husband who shall keep a mistress in the conjugal dwelling, or shall have sexual intercourse, under scandalous circumstances, with a woman who is not his wife, or shall cohabit with her in any other place, shall be punished by prision correccional in its minimum and medium periods.”
The statement can be broken down this way. Concubinage is committed by a man in several ways:
(1) By keeping a mistress in the conjugal dwelling; OR
(2) By having sexual intercourse under scandalous circumstances with a woman who is not his wife; OR
(3) By cohabiting with her in any other place.
I think you will agree with me that there are very few men who would dare to bring or allow his mistress to live in the conjugal dwelling. Not unless of course if the wife allows it for whatever reason …
As to number (2), an adulterous affair by its nature is done secretively; a man and his paramour cannot be expected to have sexual intercourse under scandalous circumstances.
Now, number (3). If you talk to lawyers as to filing a case for concubinage, they will ask you for evidences to prove cohabitation (receipts for the apartment for example where the man and mistress are living, receipts for Meralco, PLDT, etc, affidavits of eyewitnesses that the man and mistress are really cohabiting, etc.)
Do the evidences you have prove beyond reasonable doubt (the standard for conviction in a criminal case) that indeed the man and the mistress are cohabiting? If the YM messages, the testimonies of bosses, colleagues and former bosses only prove that your husband is having an affair, that will not prove concubinage under number (3) as I discussed.
If the mistress gets pregnant and gives birth, can that be used as evidence for concubinage against the man? Again, please take note of how concubinage is committed as I discussed under numbers (1) up to (3). The pregnancy is not necessarily proof of cohabitation.
This is why as I discussed in this post, it is much better and easier to file a case of psychological violence under RA 9262 rather than concubinage under the RPC. Plus, the penalty for psychological violence is higher, six years minimum up to a maximum of twelve years (compared to just a minimum of six months and one day up to a maximum of six years for concubinage).
As to what happens to the mistress in a case for concubinage, I have discussed this in my replies to the other comments. Please take time to read them.
Atty. Gelacio,
I am from the other side of the fence. I am living-in with my boyfriend since 2003, who was married in 2001. They stayed together only for 9 months & bore 2 sons. I came into the picture when they were no longer seeing each other. my boyfriend is now currently working abroad & we have a 2-year-old daughter. I met his legal family last month. I came to know frm my boyfriend that after learning that he is working in the US, the wife was asking him back, of course my boyfriend refused but his sons countinously receives support, my daughter doesn't. Since it is very difficult & costly to go through annulment, my boyfriend is planning to bring us the the US with him to migrate.
Well, I want to raise my daughter here because I love my country. Is there legal hope for people like me? Can I be sued by the wife?
As I discussed here, in concubinage, both the husband and the mistress MUST be charged criminally. The legal wife cannot file a criminal case only against you.
The possible charge will be under the third way by which concubinage is committed, which is cohabitation (living in together as man and wife).
hello atty..
good day poh... my sister was civilly-married last august 2008 tpos ng-abroad po sya ng september naiwan ung husband nya sa pilipinas mtagal clang nging mg bf bgo cla ngdecide n magpakasal and lahat ng gastusin eh sister ko ang ngbabayad.. ung husband nya walang trabaho.. ndi pa poh cla ngsasama sa iisang bahay at wla p rin po clang anak.. ngaun poh may nakilala sya n guy na aware n kasal n sya,, at 1 month pregnant n poh sya ngaun dun sa guy na bf n nya ngaun.. my sister is planning to gave birth that child in the philippines n kasama poh ung bf nya ngaun.. may balak din poh syang magpakasal dun sa guy sa church or kht civil. possible poh ba un n magpakasal sya ulit??? ung husband poh nya alam n pregnant sya dun sa bf nya ngaun.. sa ngaun poh may kinakasama n rin ung asawa nya d2 sa pilipinas.. kung magpapakasal poh b ang sister ko at ang bf nya ngaun, and hindi maghabol ung husband nya wla poh bang kaso un???
atty. antayin ko poh ung response nyo pra mapaliwanagan ko ung sister ko kng anu ang dapat gawin..
salamat poh... and more power...
-natalie
Natalie,
If your sister gets married again without having the first marriage declared null and void, then your sister can be charged with bigamy. The crime of bigamy is a public crime, meaning, anyone who has knowledge of the bigamous marriage can report this to the authorities. This means that even if the husband does not file a case against your sister, then anybody else can file the case against her.
Hi Atty.
Ako po ay ikinasal nuon 2001 sa aking college boyfriend. Simula po nung ikasal kami ei nakilala ko po ung tunay niang ugali at tlgang po nagsisisi ako. Year 2002 po nagabroad po ung asawa ko. Year 2005 po meron po akong nakilalang lalake na tlgang minahal ko at nabuntis po nia ako. Year feb 2007 nalaman po nung asawa ko at inilayo po nia sa akin ung dalawang anak namin. Since ako po ung nagkasala at nagkamali hindi ko po hinabol ung mga bata. hanggang nov 2008 po maganda nman po ung paguusap namin sa email tapos po ngaun jan 2009 nagkaroon po xa ng mga pictures namin nung mga anak ko ngaun at nung lalaking kinakasama ko ngaun at nagbanta po na idedemanda daw po ako. Alam ko nman po na malaki po ang posibilidad na makulong po kami nung partner ko ngaun. Ano po ba ang puede kong gawin ngaun? Kapag po ba nakulong kami magkakaroon na po ba ako ng karapatan/custody dun sa anak namin nung asawa ko? Please po payuhan ninyo ako kung ano po ang puede kong gawin. Marami pong salamat.
I have a daughter with a married guy and he acknowleged my daughter and bears his surname. Now this married guy has a wife who is threatening me. This guy and his wife are still living together and has 2 kids. I told this guy that he can visit our daughter and look after her if I'm not around. I'm just wondering, if the wife sues me or his husband, what grounds can she use?
Your husband can charge you with adultery, and your child with that other man is evidence of such adultery. If and when you are convicted, then you will lose any custody over your children.
Please read carefully this post, the comments and my replies to the comments. I have discussed several times this issue of what cases can be filed against the concubine / mistress.
Atty. Galacio,
My husband and I have been separated over 5 years now, not legally separated. We have a daughter together, she is with me, and regularly sees her father. Being separated, both of us have gone our separate ways and have had subsequent relationships.
Recently, out of the blue, he threatend to file a case of adultery on me. I have a son with another man, and I know he can use this against me. However, I do know he has fathered 2 children since we've separated. And I know I can file a case of concubinage on him. He has never given child support for our daughter which is also grounds to file for psychological violence.
I'm in the process of nullifiying my original marriage to him because i was underaged at the time of the marriage.
My main question is, what can happen in this situation? We are both guilty of adultery/concubinage. But he has the added case of not providing child support. In all honesty, we don't need the money for child support now, but I did when we first separated.
Your thoughts?
If your petition to declare your marriage null and void for non-age is granted, then any charge of adultery will not prosper.
Should the case of adultery be filed while your petition is pending, you can claim that the petition is a PREJUDICIAL QUESTION. This means that the issue of whether you were validly married or not should be resolved first.
Atty. Galacio,
When filing a case of adultery/concubine, what are the average costs for the person filing the case? Are there costs involved to the party being accused?
In a null and void marriage case, the person filing has a large expense, what about the person on the other end of the case? is there an expense for them?
My wife and I have been separated for 8 years. I caught her having an affair with a married man. Now they had a child which she gave birth to in the US and I cannot find the birth certificate but I have seen the child with her here in the Philippines...I want to file for adultery. I have pictures of them (my wife and her lover) together with the baby and pictures of her pregnant while she was in the US. Is this sufficient evidence for an adultery case?
Where did this adulterous relationship take place – here in the Philippines or in the US? If if took place in the US, then there will be a problem of VENUE, meaning where exactly here in the Philippines is the proper place where you can file the complaint?
Considering that you have already been separated for eight years now, what is your interest in pursuing this case at this point in time?
1. If you retain the services of a private lawyer, you will have to pay that lawyer’s professional fees and appearance fees. The complainant however can avail of the services of fiscal (now called the public prosecutor) which means that there will be no professional fees or appearance fees. Please take that in a criminal case, it is the Stat itself which is the main complainant. This is the reason why criminal cases are captioned “people of the Philippines versus __________ .
2. Whatever costs and expenses the complainant may incur in the petition for declaration of nullity, he or she can ask for reimbursement from the guilty party.
atty.
hi. your website really helps a lot. this is my questions:
1. is text messages is a big evidence for a adultery or annulment.
2. my husband is giving us support but ir was not enough for us, we have a 11yr.old son. im asking for more because i know he can give it. my son and i are suffering from financial security that my husband was the only one who decided to give that amount. what can i do? do i have to file a petition?
3. i am also a battered wife, my son also suffers, he saw many times how my husband emotionally and physicallly abuse us. everytime he visit my son, i feel like hes always bullying me, is it a sign of a battered wife.?
4. i want to contest the annulment that hes going to file, is it possible? what should i do? what can you give me an advice. he want's to marry her girl. i also have txt from her other woman, can i use this as a proof. being legally married is may i say a winning battle to her other woman, is it right? please advice me.
5. he said i have nothing to get from our conjugal property and he will put all those things under my son's name is it possible?
6. he said there is nothing about us anymore, because we already talked and end our relationship. i told him but i dont believe in that because there in no court rule that tells that we are already single person.
6. we found out that he was in sogo pasay, is it possible to use this as concubinage. and use this a proof that he is with somebody.
7. in annulment he want's my guy to come out, i haven't intercourse with this guy. but only he was holding a text messages as a proof but there was nothing in the text that tells that we did something wrong.
8. with all these i want to get more from our conjugal property you think we have the big part of the cake in this annulment? i am 13 yeras married house wife and i may say i dont deserve the way he treat me.
thank you, we need your help
thanks.... alone again naturally...
atty...
1. i really don't have money to pay my atty. just in case my husband file the annulment. i can i ask help from him just in case. im only a house wife and 13 years of marriage. we've been separated for a month now and it is very easy for him to decide an annulment. i refused his decision because i know before we go there there are lots of things we can fix and save this family. you think the way he think is a sign of psychological incapacity. but it seems he was decided already.
Hi I am the one writing who has been separated for 8 years and caught my wife have a baby in the US. Reason I am pursuing this now is because she has custody of my 16 year old daughter and based on what I have read this is part of moral depravity when it comes to having custody of children. I do not want my daughter to think this is right. Also, the relationship started in the Philippines and this is the very relationship, reason and guy why we separated in the 1st place. But she gave birth in the US and specifically went there just to give birth and is now back in Manila with the baby. She is teaching my daughter the wrong values and I want something done about it. Back to my question, do you think I have a case with the evidence I have. Pictures of her pregnant while she was in the states and pictures of her with her newborn child.
good day atty. i hope you can help me with my questions.
i am a single mom. the father of my child is married. i broke up with him after his wife knew our affair. his wife knew that i became pregnant but his husband keeps on denying that the child is his. if ever ba na malaman ng wife nya na anak namin yun ng husband nya, pwede ba nya ko kasuhan of adultery or whatever?
my 2nd question is wala na kami ng husband nya but i would like to ask for financial support for our child. i want it in papers sana since di naman siya pumirma sa birth certificate ng anak namin, pwedeng pwede nyang takbuhan ang responsibility nya sa bata. meron ba right ang anak namin kahit di sya nakapirma sa birth certificate?
thank you so much. your reply will be a great help.
hello atty. i really dont know where to ask advice on my moms case, i hope you could help me o this.. my mom has a case of being the mistress of her boyfriend and the police issued daw a warrant of arrest for the two. sir pls help me how can i help my mom to counteract on the case we are so worried na god bless atty.
my mom po is separated with my father for 10 years now and hr boyfriend is also separated with his wife but not legally, the wife of her boyfriend filed the case, my mom po ba would be punish for imprisonment? may warrant of arrest na kc po sa kanya.. thanks a lot po atty.
Alone again naturally,
1. Since my request for e-mails rather than posting inquiries here in this blog seems to have been unintentionally disregarded or has gotten lost among the subsequent posted comments, I am forced to answer your inquiry here. But I still prefer that people send me their inquiries by e-mail.
2. Text messages are now accepted as evidence in courts. However, as to whether they are strong or not depend on the circumstances of how you got these text messages. The defense can be put up that you manufactured these text messages since the SIM card is with you. How do you prove that the other number from which the text messages may have come from really belongs to the other woman?
2. As to financial support: Please read my post “Support for abandoned woman and family” (look for the link in the sidebar). Or download the free PDF newsletter from my website www.familymatters.org.ph
You can ask for legal help from the Department of Justice Action Center (telephone no: 523-84-81; email address: dojac@doj.gov.ph).
3. RA 9262 is our landmark law on violence against women. Please read my RA 9262 posts (look for the links in the sidebar). Please also read my Salt and Light blog post on emotional abuse and psychological violence.
4. Simply because a husband had sex with a woman other than his wife does not make him guilty of concubinage. Please read this post again as to how concubinage can be committed by a husband.
5. If you got married under the Family Code (that is after August 1998), the default property relation between you and your husband is absolute community of property. “Deprivation or threat of deprivation of financial resources and the right to the use and enjoyment of the conjugal, community or property owned in common” is a crime under RA 9262.
pike,
You can ask for free legal help from the PAO (Public Attorneys Office) or from the IBP (Integrated Bar of the Philippines) chapter in your town or city. The IBP chapter offices are usually located in the Hall of Justice of cities. You can also try to get free legal help from the OLA (office of Legal Aid) of the UP College of Law in Diliman, Quezon City.
The DOJ Action Center acts on complaints, requests for assistance and legal queries of walk-in clients of the DOJ. For legal assistance please visit the Department of Justice Action Center (DOJAC) Main Office, Ground Floor, Multi-Purpose Building, Padre Faura Street, Ermita, Manila; Telephone no: 523-84-81; Email Address: dojac@doj.gov.ph or visit any Regional/Provincial/City Prosecution Offices in your locality.
If you tell the judge that you do not have money to pay for the services of a lawyer, the judge will appoint a counsel de officio for you. You do not have to pay any fees to this counsel de officio.
Please take note that adultery is a crime committed by the WIFE and her paramour. The possible charge against you is concubinage. Please read my discussion of how concubinage can be committed by a husband.
In terms of support for your child, you have to file a petition for compulsory recognition of your child. You have to be able to prove that indeed the man is the biological father pf your child. This would mean DNA testing. Please read my post titled “DNA testing to prove legitimacy or illegitimacy of children; Supreme Court’s New Rule on DNA Evidence”.
There are three institutions here in the Philippines which conducts DNA testing: St. Luke’s, a certain department in UP Diliman and either the DOH or the DOST. A DNA test costs around Php 30,000. When you file the petition for compulsory recognition therefore, you will be asking the court to compel the man to undergo DNA testing to prove or disprove his paternity. The court will require you to shoulder the cost for the DNA testing but later on, once you prove the man’s paternity of your child, you can ask for reimbursement.
Together with the petition for compulsory recognition pf your child, you can include a petition for Protection Order under RA 9262. Please download my free PDF newsletter titled “Issue no. 004 July 31, 2008 "Financial support for abandoned woman and her children”. Essentially, through a Protection Order, the court will compel the man and his employer to set aside a certain percentage of his salary to be remitted directly to you on a monthly basis. If the man and/or his employer fail to do so, they will be held in contempt of court.
It is not the police which issues a warrant of arrest. It is only a judge who can issue a warrant. But first of all, there will be a preliminary investigation to be conducted by the fiscal’s office. The fiscal will provide an opportunity for your mother to submit her counter-affidavit and evidences. If the fiscal determines that there is a basis for filing the case, then the court proceedings will follow.
Probably, what you mean is that the judge has already issued a warrant of arrest and the police is now serving the warrant on your mother. In this case, your mother can post bail for her liberty. If there was no preliminary investigation done by the fiscal’s office, your mother can ask the court to remand the case to the fiscal’s office for the preliminary investigation.
attorney what do i do
the wife of my friend has been accusing me of being her husbands mistress when I am definitely not, she's making this up to make my friend look bad coz she wants to file for anullment
theire marriage is none of my business but
I have been harrassed and scandaled verbally, even threatened by some of her relatives online and by hearsay its noy funny anymore and i am starting to take take this seriously
what can I do to protect myself?they just wont stop its been almost 5 years and they still put me in this very irritating position
I dont want damage to my reputation not to the welfare of my family. I am not married.
attorney what do i do
the wife of my friend has been accusing me of being her husbands mistress when I am definitely not, she's making this up to make my friend look bad coz she wants to file for anullment
theire marriage is none of my business but
I have been harrassed and scandaled verbally, even threatened by some of her relatives online and by hearsay its noy funny anymore and i am starting to take take this seriously
what can I do to protect myself?they just wont stop its been almost 5 years and they still put me in this very irritating position
I dont want damage to my reputation not to the welfare of my family. I am not married.
attorney what do i do
the wife of my friend has been accusing me of being her husbands mistress when I am definitely not, she's making this up to make my friend look bad coz she wants to file for anullment
theire marriage is none of my business but
I have been harrassed and scandaled verbally, even threatened by some of her relatives online and by hearsay its noy funny anymore and i am starting to take take this seriously
what can I do to protect myself?they just wont stop its been almost 5 years and they still put me in this very irritating position
I dont want damage to my reputation not to the welfare of my family. I am not married.
May Reyes,
You have the option of filing civil and criminal cases against her. With regards civil cases, you can use the New Civil Code of the Philippines provisions human relations specifically the following:
Art. 20. Every person who, contrary to law, wilfully or negligently causes damage to another, shall indemnify the latter for the same.
Art. 21. Any person who wilfully causes loss or injury to another in a manner that is contrary to morals, good customs or public policy shall compensate the latter for the damage.
In terms of criminal cases, you can file criminal cases like defamation or libel.
On a practical note, however, you are being unwise by having a close relationship with a married man. It seems that you know a lot about your friend's marital and family situation. Marriage counselors have been saying that extramarital affairs often occur between friends and co-workers. Dr. Ed Wheat Jr. in his book “Love Life for Every Married Couple” even advises people NEVER to confide relationship problems with a person of the opposite sex.
It appears that your friend (a married man) has been confiding in you.
Dr. Jennifer Harley Chalmers says that “affairs begin when a person, other than your spouse, starts meeting needs your spouse isn’t fulfilling.”
Pastor Clem Guillermo, a well-known Filipino marriage counselor, during a seminar warned the participants to avoid listening when a friend of the opposite sex starts telling you about his or her marital or relationship problems. At the risk of offending your friend, Ptr. Clem said, you should tell him or her to confide in either your pastor or the pastor’s wife.
Ptr. Clem stated that there are several reasons (and stages) why we commit the dangerous mistake of listening to a friend of the opposite sex tell about his or her problems:
(a) You are friends, and friends are supposed to care and listen to each other, right? Wrong!
(b) Messianic complex - you think that you have all the answers to your friend’s problems or that you are the only one who cares or understands
(c) Emotional blackmail - if you do the right thing by refusing to listen to your friend, the friend will usually “blackmail” you by saying, “I thought you were my friend; I thought I found someone who can advise me, encourage me …”
Ptr. Clem then added that as you mistakenly continue to listen to your friend, first you pity your friend, and then later on, you begin to develop romantic feelings for your friend.
To stop that man’s wife from bothering you and causing you all these problems, my advice is for you to terminate that friendly relationship. Please take time to read completely my Salt and Light blogs posts (there's a link to S and L in the sidebar of this blog):
Marital infidelity: causes, consequences and conclusions
Surviving Marital Infidelity
"Sad Movies Always Make Me Cry"
The grass is not greener on the other side
hallo sir, madam:
may i comment to give me the efect, brief history, R.A of the Philippines. and definition of adultery.. thanks pls.... all under adultery.
Hi I am the one writing who has been separated for 8 years and caught my wife have a baby in the US. Reason I am pursuing this now is because she has custody of my 16 year old daughter and based on what I have read this is part of moral depravity when it comes to having custody of children. I do not want my daughter to think this is right. Also, the relationship started in the Philippines and this is the very relationship, reason and guy why we separated in the 1st place. But she gave birth in the US and specifically went there just to give birth and is now back in Manila with the baby. She is teaching my daughter the wrong values and I want something done about it. Back to my question, do you think I have a case with the evidence I have. Pictures of her pregnant while she was in the states and pictures of her with her newborn child.
Please surf the Supreme Court of the Philippines and the Chan Robles websites for the answers to your questions.
Pictures alone will not be sufficient evidence. The birth certificate of the child is the vital document you need PLUS proof that the adulterous act took place in the Philippines for purposes of jurisdiction.
Hello, Atty.
Im with a married man for 8 years now.We have 2 children. He was 2 years separated (not legally) from his wife when I met him.
Now, his wife got married in Islam rites and has advised us to get married in Islam. But conversion is not my choice.
If his wife got married already, what happens to their Christian marriage? Is there a chance for us to get married in Catholic church?
If we convert to Islam and get married in their rites, is it valid?
Thanking you in advance.
Muslims are not covered by the Family Code but by PD 1083 or the Code of Muslim Personal Laws. Your questions can be best answered by the Office of the Jurisconsult, an office created under PD 1083 to tackle questions concerning this law. Go to the www.gov.ph (Philippine government portal) and look for the link to this particular office.
Atty. Galacio,
Me and my wife are no longer living together for the reason that she does not know how to handle money. I told her that she need to learn how to save money for our children. I continue to provide them financial support more enough than her expenses to my children. After 8 months of not living together I had signed a birth certificate for my child from another girl. Most of the time I visit my child on the girl's house. I leave with my parents and my parents want to see my child to my other girl. If she visits in my parents house will I be charged with concubinage? Visiting to their house or going out with her can be use against me?
My wife keep asking for money but when I saw our children, they getting thinner. So I decide to look for the expenses and savings she made for more than a year but she did not provide me any. She stop me to see our children and I decide to stop the financial support. Sounds to me that she hostage our children for money. Is there any charges can sue to me? Can I sue her for any charges?
Please help me.
Loving Dad
BTW the girl and her parents rent a house. And she leaves with her parents.
Loving Dad
Loving Dad,
As I discussed in this post, your wife can charge you with “psychological violence” under RA 9262. That birth certificate you signed can be used as evidence against you.
The issues of visitation and support are separate and distinct. Just because your wife won’t allow you to see the children is not an excuse for you not to give support. On the other hand, just because you are not giving support is not an excuse for your wife not to allow you to see your children.
What you should do is to file a petition in court asking it to settle the amount of support. However, as I said, your wife can charge you with violation of RA 9262 because of your extra-marital affair.
Hello Atty. Galacio,
Ano po yung mga pwedeng ebidensya para sa kasong adultery?
Salamat po.
A husband who suspects his wife of committing adultery usually hires a private detective to follow and record the activities of the wife. The private detective provides videos, photos and other reports that can prove the crime. Of course, eyewitness accounts of the wife and the man having sexual relations are very important pieces of evidence (this is a little bit difficult to obtain however because of the secret nature of the adulterous relationship). Of course if the wife gets pregnant by the adulterous partner, that is solid evidence.
Atty. ask ko lang po kung pwede mag request during hearing sa fiscal level na mag pa mediko legal ang aking asawa upang malaman kung sexually active pa rin sya kahit 17months na kaming hiwalay. Para maging ebidensya na sya ay nag commit ng Adultery. Maari rin po bang makuha ko ang custody ng aking mga anak kung mapatunayan na mayroon syang ibang lalake at ang mga bata ay natututo na magmura dahil sa mga tao na nakapaligid sa kanilang lugar.
1. Please read my posts “Can a mother be deprived of custody of her child?” and “Custody battles over children: what determines fitness of a parent over another?” (look fore the links in the sidebar).
2. It is very doubtful that the fiscal (or even the court) will order your wife to undergo a examination to find out if she is sexually active. We have the 1987 Constitution provision against self-incrimination, that is, a person cannot be compelled to provide in any way evidence against himself or herself.
Besides, even before filing the case for adultery, you must already have the proof or evidence that she has committed adultery. If you do not have such proof, then the fiscal will simply dismiss your complaint.
hi atty.
I know someone who is living with his mistress. The girl is 5 months pregnant but the man is married and his wife is working abroad. The family of the man knows about the relationship and they tolerate them by letting them live together. The wife doesn't know of the affair neither her parents but the husbands family has knowledge of the affair. How can the wife file a case against her husband is the mistress being pregnant an evidence for the wife to sue her husband of concubinage. Is the family can be involve in the case because they have been tolerating the relationship and not telling the legal wife about it....
Please read this post again as to what constitutes the crime of concubinage. The mere fact that the other woman is pregnant does not necessarily give rise to a case of concubinage. If it can be proven that the husband and the other woman are cohabiting, then a case can be filed. This is why I recommended the use of RA 9262 (psychological violence) rather than concubinage under the RPC.
Concubinage can only be filed against the husband and the concubine. The husband’s family cannot be charged criminally.
my husband filed for an annulment case based on phsychological incapacity. we have 5 kids. he has an affair with another woman and has 2 kids.He is supporting us financially and also his other family and his parents. What case can I file against him? He is working in Europe ( GOVT AGENCY) as one of the dept heads and is getting a very high salary. Can I get a much higher support knowing that he is giving more to his other family (which is now in the u.s). He is always telling us na mababa lang ang sweldo nya, however I got hold of his payslip one time in his house and showed na malaki pala ang sweldo nya doon.By the way , I also heard na meron na naman syang ibang girlfriend, (officemate pa nya).
The court handling the petition for declaration of nullity filed by your husband will tackle the issues of support for the children, their presumptive legitimes and the division of whatever properties you acquired during your marriage. Please consult your lawyer on these matters.
fOLLOW UP ...CAN I FILE A CASE OF RA9262 AGAINST HIM OR HIS MISTRESS?I DONT HAVE A LAWYER (IM IN BAGUIO)
RA 9262 can only be filed against the man.
If you want to file a case against the mistress, the proper case is concubinage under the Revised Penal Code.
You can ask the PAO (Public Attorney’s Office) to help you draft and file the complaint-affidavit. The fiscal will then conduct the preliminary investigation. If and when the case is filed with the court, the fiscal (or public prosecutor) assigned to that specific court will be your lawyer. The fiscal is a government employee; you do not have to pay any lawyer’s fees.
Atty Gerry T. Galacio
gud day sir,
my wife is working in government hospital in saudi arabia, she admit the she had illicit affair with a 50 yrs old man also working in saudi arabia. i want to get her back in the philippines but she refused..
what iam going to do? i want to get her back?
and if iam going to file case is this enough to bring her back?
in fact her family know all about this but its ok to them as long my wife support them financially.
thank you very much sir..
Atty Gerry T. Galacio
gud day sir,
my wife is working in government hospital in saudi arabia, she admit the she had illicit affair with a 50 yrs old man also working in saudi arabia. i want to get her back in the philippines but she refused..
what iam going to do? i want to get her back?
and if iam going to file case is this enough to bring her back?
in fact her family know all about this but its ok to them as long my wife support them financially.
i send email to philippine consulate general jeddah.. they said "the sad reality is that this is a personal issue between you and your wife in which the Consulate cannot help much"
i also go to the agency of my wife they also said that this is family matters this is a personal issue between you and your wife..
i call to HR of the hospital a filipina answer the call and she said that no reason to terminate her because this is not related her work.. but i think she's wrong because we know that in saudi arabia very strict to illicit affair..
can i go to saudi arabia embassy to file a complaint?
thank you very much atty. may god bless you..
sana po matulungan nyo ako. and give me legal advice of what i should do step by step..
“ want to get her back in the philippines but she refused. what iam going to do? i want to get her back?”
What is your reason for wanting to bring your wife back here to the Philippines? Since the crime of adultery took place in Saudi Arabia, you cannot charge her here with adultery since the crime took place outside the jurisdiction of Philippine courts.
You can of course go to the Saudi Arabia embassy or consulate. As to what action will be taken with regards your complaint, that is up to the embassy.
i want to win her back because i still love her and for the sake of our children. 6yrs old and four..
what should i do now?..
thanks atty..
may god bless you
atty if she come back soon and then i want justice for what her done to us, what case iam going to file?
It seems you are confused as to exactly what you want.
Please take time to read my Salt and Light blog articles at www.-salt-and-light-.blogspot.com on how to deal with marital infidelity:
Marital infidelity: causes, consequences and conclusions
Surviving Marital Infidelity
The grass is not greener on the other side
"Sad Movies Always Make Me Cry"
Priceless counsel from a bargain sale book: “How to save your marriage alone”
Biblical grounds for divorce and remarriage
Please also read Dr. James Dobson’s book “Love Must Be Tough” on how to deal with marital infidelity. The book is available in National Bookstore.
You should also eek marriage counseling. Please try to contact Ptr. Clem Guillermo and his wife, well-known marriage and family counselors, through their nightly radio program “Heartline” aired over DZAS 702 Khz, 10:30 to 12. I think the DZAS tel. no. is 92-11-52. Its website is http://www.febc.ph/stations/dzas/index.html . Ptr. Clem’s office is in the Back to the Bible Building, corner of West Avenue and EDSA (opposite SM City North EDSA).
hi
im married since 2002, recently had a kid (jan 2009). by feb 2009, found out husband is starting to have a gf.
starting = no sex yet affair (or so they say)
found out about "affair" in hubby's mobile. didnt read any texts but log showed lots of incoming and outgoing sms from one number yet werent any in the message folder. duda meter went up. spoke with hubby, he confirmed it.
turned out, the other woman is our employee. been with us since 2008
confronted them both (at the same time) in the shop. am cool with it (yes bit angry, but quite alright). afterwards had staff buy lunch for girl pa. decided to retain girl's services. she does a good job at the shop (apparently does a good job to the hubby too, lol)
anyhoo, wanted to continue marriage for sake of kid, bit fond of the hubby too, etcetera...
but am demanding increased attention and pag-aalaga and corny stuff like that. am not getting enough from hubby. feel neglected. hell hath no fury like a woman wronged (errr, scorned hehehe) and all that jazz.
now thinking about breaking off with him. AND making life difficult for him too - like the way he made life difficult for me (sleepless nights, worried days, anxiety of keeping up pretenses, and ad infinitum aggravations)
want to file case against him, my questions are:
(No will not ask if will file concubinage/adultery/ra 9262. read your blog AND all the comments. know which one na)
1) if i file ra 9262, how long does it usually take before decision is meted out?
2) stupid questions, but which court hears these kinds of cases? in case i lose can this kind of a case be elevated to a higher court?
3) can a case be filed against me too? my vexing the hubby and stuff like that? wouldnt want tables turned on me.
4) know cant file anything against the other woman, kinda useless based on proof that i have (basically nothing hehehe) but can i file something at the police and nbi (concubinage or others) so that she'll have a blot on her record?
yeah am just in here for revenge, but hey i was aggrieved. and short of doing them bodily harm this is the only thing i can think of.
duda ko an eye for an eye is against what you preach, but anger's there even though i say all's cool. yes am a prisoner, want to forgive in order to free myself, but i need validation of import and love from hubby. not getting that.
so here i am
do you have any ptrs here in mindanao?
maybe talking to one will prevent me from adding burden to the jud. system
thanks much.
Blaire,
[1] Family Courts (specifically designated branches of our regional trial Courts) are tasked to handle cases involving the family and marriage, and all cases involving minors. RA 9262 cases are handled by Family Courts. The Supreme Court usually appoints women as Family Court judges; if there is no female judge available, then the Court appoints a man.
In a criminal case, if the accused is found not guilty, then an appeal is not possible (because of the issue of double jeopardy). If the case you will file is a civil case for damages or a Protection Order under RA 9262, then an appeal to a higher court is allowed by law.
[2] There is no guarantee as to how long an RA 9262 case (or any case for that matter) will take. In Metro Manila and highly urbanized cities, Family Courts are overburdened with case.
With regards protection orders under RA 9262, a TPO (Temporary Protection Order) can be issued in the day it is applied for. The Family Court must resolve whether to grant a PPO (Permanent Protection Order) within 30 days. Please read my RA 9262 posts (look for the links in the sidebar).
[3] The problem is that you “enabled” your husband’s wrongful behavior by being nice to him and the other woman. Please read my Salt and Light blog (www.-salt-and-light-.blogspot.com) posts on how to deal with marital infidelity:
Marital infidelity: causes, consequences and conclusions
Surviving Marital Infidelity
The grass is not greener on the other side
"Sad Movies Always Make Me Cry"
Priceless counsel from a bargain sale book: “How to save your marriage alone”
Biblical grounds for divorce and remarriage
I highly recommend that you read Dr. James Dobson’s book “Love Must Be Tough” (available in bookstores). I wholeheartedly believe in Dr. Dobson’s recommendations that marital infidelity must be dealt with immediately, decisively, strongly and without compromises. You were wrong in being nice to your husband and his adulterous partner. As you can read in my posts “Marital infidelity: causes, consequences and conclusions” and “Surviving Marital Infidelity” marriage experts like Dobson and Willard Harley say that the adulterous relationship must be cut off without any further communication or contact between the partners. By allowing the woman to continue working for you, you gave her and your husband the opportunity to continue with the relationship.
You might want to read David Clarke’s book “What to do when your spouse says I don’t love you anymore” (this book goes even beyond the tough love approach).
As to pastors in the Mindanao area, please surf to my blog “Baptist Churches in the Philippines” (www.baptist-rp.blogspot.com) where I have a directory of churches.
Sadly, not all pastors or counselors agree with Dr. Dobson’s approach. Some pastors or counselors tell the wife to just submit to her husband and by that, her husband will change. This is a wrong view of Biblical submission. Hendricks and Lewis in their book “Rocking the Roles” say that “the focus of a Biblically submissive woman is not to enable her husband’s sinful behavior but to enable him to become the man that God wants him to be.”
If you want people to pray for you for whatever your needs are, please follow this link to a prayer room for men and women: http://womentodaymagazine.com/chat/share.html
Hi Atty, I would like to ask if a text and e-mail messages can be used as an evidence for concubinage and psychological violence(under RA9262)?Also, can the pictures of my husband and his paramour that is posted in the internet (friendster, myspace, facebook and multiply account) can be used against them? Can i also file a case against his paramour since she is posting and sending me rude messages via phone and e-mail, and parading their pictures all over the internet. Thanks and God Bless!
If properly authenticated and verified, text and e-mail messages can be used as evidence in court under the Supreme Court rule on electronic evidence.
Please take note however of the three ways by which concubinage can be committed. Simply having an affair is not a basis for filing a case of concubinage. It can only be committed as I discussed in this post by cohabitation as man and wife, having sexual relations in scandalous circumstances, etc. This is why I said it is better to file a case of psychological violence rather than concubinage.
Yes, you can file a civil case for damages against the woman. It is also possible to file a criminal case (unjust vexation, for example) against the woman.
Thank you Atty for your prompt response. What civil case can I file in court against my husband mistress. God Bless!
hi atty!
i have a big problem. my gf is currently married and with one child though we havent had any sexual relations yet within our 6 month relationship we planned on filing an annulment case to free her from her estranged husband. try as we might to keep our relationship a secret, the husband learned of about it and found my gf's cellphone containing most of our plans for our relationship. now the husband is threatening me of death threats and also he says he will use the mobile phone as evidence.
my questions are:
1. will the mobile phone inbox be enough to prove me and my gf guilty of adultery?
2. can they make false witnesses to testify against me and my gf to convict us?
3. my gf and i have been really careful in the past six months but most people in our area can say that we are often seen together. will that be enough evidence?
thank you very much for your help!
i know its a sin to be in love with her but its just it...i love her. i hope you could enlighten our hearts with your answer god bless!
to follow up on the question above,
can witness reports that we are often seen together enough to convict us of adultery?
thanks!
Please read the post, the comments and my replies to the comments again. I have discussed several times what civil case can possibly be filed against the mistress.
The Revised Penal Code provides that “adultery is committed by any married woman who shall have sexual intercourse with a man not her husband and by the man who has carnal knowledge of her knowing her to be married, even if the marriage be subsequently declared void.”
The main thing in this definition of adultery is “sexual intercourse.” If there is no sexual intercourse, then adultery cannot be committed. But please take note of the court decisions which state:
[1] The nature of the crime of adultery is such that it will not be often when it can be established by direct evidence. Nevertheles, strong circumstantial and corroborative evidence such as will lead the guarded discretion of a reasonable and just man to the conclusion that the alleged act has been committed, is sufficient to sustain a conviction for adultery.
[2] Proof of sexual intercourse is not essential for conviction when the circumstances proven in the case lead to no other conclusion.
What these decisions contemplate is a situation for example as when the couple was surprised in the room of a hotel already undressed.
As to whether the text messages and your being seen together can be taken as proof of adultery, it is only the judge who can properly evaluate whether it is evidence of adultery or not.
gud day atty. Galacio
the crime of adultery took place in Saudi Arabia, since the crime took place outside the jurisdiction of Philippine courts.
where should i file a case or complaint?
do i need to go to saudi arabia?
thank you very much..
Sir,
I would like to ask if I, as sister or my parents can file a case for RA 9262 against my brother-in-law who got someone else's pregnant and whom we believe is abusing my sister psychologically, emotionally and verbally. With the description for battered woman syndrome you gave, I strongly believe my sister is suffering from this as she always give excuses to her husband who had many sexual relationships with his officemates. Looking forward for your reply. Thank you. More Power and God Bless!!!
You should inquire with the Philippine embassy or consulate in Saudi Arabia as to what your legal remedies are over there.
Section 25 of RA 9262 states that violence against women and their children shall be considered a public offense which may be prosecuted upon the filing of a complaint by any citizen having personal knowledge of the circumstances involving the commission of the crime.
This simply means that if you (or your parents) have personal knowledge of the acts of violence committed against your sister, then you can file the case against your brother-in-law.
The problem however is that your sister (as with a lot of abused women) might side with her husband and say that what you are saying are all lies.
Atty. Galacio,
I am very happy to see my question answered. You are helping a lot of people understand their rights and their legal issues or problem. More power to you and your family!!! God Bless you always!
hi atty. may itatanong po ako. ang kapatid ko po kasi ay isang kabit at nagkaroon sila ng anak ng kinakasama nyang lalake na may asawa na 4 almost 20 years. Yung asawa ng lalake walang ginawang aksyon laban sa kanilang dalawa ng aking kapatid kaso ang mother namen ang gumawa ng hakbang. gusto nyang makulong ang aking kapatid at yung lalake. tapos kinuha nya ung anak ng kapatid ko para ilayo sa kanilang dalawa. At tanong meron po bang karapatan ang mother ko na gawin un sa aking kapatid? at ano lang po ba ang karapatan ng magulang sa kanyang anak at meron ba itong rights na ipakulong ang ate ko? at meron ba itong karapatang ilayo ang bata sa kanya?
at meron ba itong kaso?
pls anwer my question...
im so worried about my sister.
pls answer my question...
pinagkakait ng mother ko sa kapatid ku anak ng ate ku at ng kinakasama nyang lalake na my asawa.
The child is illegitimate and so under Article 176 of the Family Code, sole parental authority belongs to your sister. The grandmother has no right to take the child with her (unless she has obtained the proper court order).
What case has your mother filed against your sister?
kakasuhan po ng mother ko ng concubinage and immorality ang sister ko at yung lalake na may asawa. tapos kukunin niya yung bata na wla pang dalawang taong gulang at ipinagkakait niya yung bata sa kapatid ko parang nilalayo. dahil daw sa immoral ang aking kapatid. tapos pinatanggal niya din ang sister ko sa pinagtatrabahuan nito at siniraan, ganun din ang ginawa niya sa lalake. Hiniwalayan na po ng ate ko ung lalake. pero ayaw maniwala ng mother ko. tapos ang dumi ng mga sinasabi niya. nakakasawa na. pinoblotter niya kapatid ko tapos diretso na daw dapat yun sa pulis yun ang sabi. ang mother ko ang magkakaso ng concubinage sa dalawa. Diba pwede din kasuhan ng ate ko ang mother ko dahil nilalayo nito ang bata sa kanya?
tnx po
As I said, your mother does not have the right to take the child away from your sister. Sole parental authority belongs to your sister. As to filing a case of concubinage, it is only the offended party (the husband’s wife) who can file the case.
atty. gerry pwede ba akong magsampa ng kaso sa wife ko na nanalo sa raffle ng malaking pera, pero tinago niya sa akin ang napanalunan niya habang nasa ibang bansa ako at kasal na kami noon ng mahigit 5 taon at may mga anak kami. Sa ngayon tuloy pa rin ang sustento ko sa kanila. Ano po ba ang habol ko doon kasi after ako sa future ng mga anak ko at baka ubusin lang niya sa mga kamag-anak niya dahil di kami gaanong naguusap at matindi ang aming away dahil na rin sa iba ang kanyang ugali. Maraming salamat po atty. sa advice na maitutulong nyo sa akin.
Mike,
Under the system of absolute community of property, the money won by your wife through the raffle is considered part of the conjugal property. Under Article 117 of the Family Code states that winnings from gambling or betting are part of the conjugal partnership of gains.
If you seek legal action against your wife, this can only worsen the situation between you and your wife. You should seek should seek marriage counseling. Please try to contact Ptr. Clem Guillermo and his wife, well-known marriage and family counselors, through their nightly radio program “Heartline” aired over DZAS 702 Khz, 10:30 to 12 and available on the Internet at http://www.febc.ph/stations/dzas/index.html
Good day atty.. Is it possible to file 3 counts of adultery if it is happened and caught in different places, date and time? If it is possible, yung bawat count po ba ay may katumbas na parusa na ayon sa batas? halimbawa kung ang 3 counts ay naputunayan, maari ba silang makulong 18 to 24 years? Or susundin lamang ang minimum or maximum na years 6 to 8 years sa tatlong counts ng adultery?
The penalty for adultery is not 6 to 8 years but “prision correccional” in its medium and maximum periods. The medium period is from 2 years, 4 months and 1 day to 4 years and 2 months. The maximum period is from to 4 years, 2 months and 1 day to 6 year.
Each adulterous act is a crime by itself. If you can prove these separate acts, then you can file three different cases.
In serving a sentence, the Revised Penal Code provides what is called “simultaneous service” of the sentences. Thus, the three penalties will be served simultaneously, meaning, the woman and the paramour will serve only for example a maximum of six years and not 18 years. This is subject to good conduct allowances, for example, which means that maximum of six years does not need to be served in full.
The practice of some jail wardens of aggregating or adding all the minimum periods of the different penalties and imposing the total as the minimum to be served is wrong. By aggregating or adding all the minimum of the penalties, it will be similar to serving the maximum of a specific penalty.It seems that some jail wardens have not read the "simultaneous service" provision of the Revised Penal Code.
Atty.First of all I would like to congratulate for answering all the question on this page and I am you can give me a clear answer to my question.
So ang nangyari nabuntis ang kinakasama ko at pinakasalan ko naman siya pero ang nangyari kinasal kami sa isang civil wedding lang pero pineke namin na residente kami sa lugar na yon kahit hinde kami tagaroon sa katwirang para lang makasal kami.Ang tanong ko po if legal ba ang marriage contract namin o peke lang kasi pineke din namin ang aming address.Pero nong kumuha kami sa Census meron namon po kaming record,kung may magrereklamo ba na hindi valid ang marriage contract namin at kasohan kami ng Perjury anong magiging parusa sa amin.Sana mabigyan mo ng sagot ang aking katanongan.Maraming salamat at more Power to you.
Atty.I hope ur doing good upon receiving this message.May naging asawa ako dati pero di maganda ang aming pagsasama.Bigla niya akong iniwan na dala ang aming anak.Nong malaman ko iniwan niya sa Parents ko ang anak namin at nagJapan na gamit niya na status is Single.Iniwan niya ang anak namin ng 3 taon sa parents ko,ako nagtostos lahat sa panganga-ilangan ng bata hangang 3 years,So after 3 years bumalik siya sa Pilipinas at kinuha niya ang anak namin sa parents ko at ang sabi niya ni isang kusing di cia manghihinge sa akin,iyang ang iniwan niyang kataga nong kinuha niaya ang anak namin sa poder namin,wala kaming nagawa kahit anopa man kahit napamahal na sa amin ang bata,pagkatapos ng ilang taon di na cia nakabalik sa Japan at nawalan cia ng trabaho,muli niya akong nilapitan at gumawa kami ng kasulatan na bigyan ng sustento ang bata sa napagkasundu-an naming halaga,at kalakip doon ay ang walang pakialaman kung ano ang maari naming gawin kac hiwalay na kami ng mahigit 9 years,nagpirmahan kami sa kasunduang iyon,pero walang notaryo sa attorney,sinunod ko lahat ng nakalagay don sa kasunduan,nong pinalad ako at nagkaroon ng trabaho sa ibang bansa,nagreklamo cia at pinahold ang aking passport.Ginamit niya ang RA 9262 or Anti violence againts women and children.Ano ang magiging laban ko sa kaso na ito?Pwedi ko bang gamitin ang ginawa naming kasunduan at pwedi ba namin ciang kasuhan ng abandonment nong iniwan niya ang anak namin sa poder ko at kinuha niyang bigla?Attorney ang alam ko,kung cno lang ang walang kasalanan ang pupunta sa korte.Sana matulungan mo ako bago masayang ang buhay ko.Kung bibigyan ko cla ng sustento ilang porsyento kaya sa sahod ko?kasama ba ang asawa sa sustento o ang bata lang.Maraming Salamat..No.1 ka sa aming puso.
1. The contract or agreement you and your wife signed is not valid. Please read my post “Can a husband and wife in a notarized document declare that they are free to marry other persons and they will not file charges against each other?” (look for the link in the sidebar).
2. In terms of the support, please read “Support for abandoned woman and family” (look for the link in the sidebar). The amount of support will be balanced by the court between the necessities of the person asking for support and the financial capability of the person from whom support is being asked. Support shall be reduced or increased proportionately, according to the reduction or increase of the necessities of the recipient and the resources or means of the person obliged to furnish the same.
In other words, your wife cannot simply state that she wants for example 50% of your salary. She has to prove in court what the needs are. In turn, you can present proof as to what your financial capability is. The judge will then determine what amount of support is fair under the circumstances.
“Ang tanong ko po if legal ba ang marriage contract namin o peke lang kasi pineke din namin ang aming address.”
The marriage is valid even if the addresses you stated in the marriage certificate are fake.
hi, atty. kasal mo ako sa husband ko since 2004. meron kaming 2 anak, isang 4yo & 2yo. last week, nagkaroon kami ng malaking away dahil sa natuklasan ko na may babae sya. inamin nya naman ito at pinatawad ko din sya agad para lang buo pa rin ang pamilya. pero, hanggang ngayon, binabalik-balikan pa rin nya ang pagkikita nila ng kanyang babae, pinupuntahan nya pa rin ito. dito pa rin naman sya umuuwi sa min pero sa isang linggo may 2 gabing nagkikita sila. ano po ang pwedeng gawin? pakipaliwanagan nyo po ako kung meron kayang pwedeng isampang kaso sa asawa ko. ano kaya pwede gawin para itigil na nya ito. salamat po, atty.
I already answered your e-mail.
Good day!
I want to ask something that is with regard to this situation;
My husband have an exclusive property which is in Mandaluyong City, he had an affair named Liza. His property in Mandaluyong was transferred to Liza through deed of donation, as far as I know, the transferred of the property is void because as a general rule in NCC art. 739, any persons found guilty of adultery at the time of the donation shall be void.
Now that I know that the donation made was invalid, the question is "IF I CAN QUESTION THE VADILITY OF THE TRANFER?" eventhough the said property is not an absolute and I dont have any rights in that property. If yes, can you give atleast 2 jurisprudence that can support that?
Thank you so much!
Your question sounds very similar to that asked by a Legal Management student a few days ago concerning a Legal Research class assignment. Your request for two jurisprudence (court decisions) also suggests that the situation you described is not real but only a class assignment.
ANYWAY, you should read Article 739 NCC again; it says, the donation can be invalidated once the donor and donee if have been found to be guilty of adultery or concubinage. This means that a criminal complaint must first be filed with the fiscal’s office, the case must be filed in court, and there must be a decision finding the parties guilty of adultery or concubinage.
Under the system of absolute community of property (ACP), any property acquired by inheritance is excluded from the community property. It is not accurate to say therefore that “you have rights to the property.” Any such right is merely inchoate or contingent, meaning, you can only have rights to that inherited land upon your husband’s death.
Your husband has a mistress to whom the inherited land was donated. First of all, Article 148 of the Family Code will govern property relations between your husband and the mistress. The said article states:
In cases of cohabitation not falling under the preceding Article, only the properties acquired by both of the parties through their actual joint contribution of money, property, or industry shall be owned by them in common in proportion to their respective contributions. In the absence of proof to the contrary, their contributions and corresponding shares are presumed to be equal. The same rule and presumption shall apply to joint deposits of money and evidences of credit.
If one of the parties is validly married to another, his or her share in the co-ownership shall accrue to the absolute community or conjugal partnership existing in such valid marriage. If the party who acted in bad faith is not validly married to another, his or her shall be forfeited in the manner provided in the last paragraph of the preceding Article.
The foregoing rules on forfeiture shall likewise apply even if both parties are in bad faith.
Please take note of the 2nd paragraph which says “If one of the parties is validly married to another, his or her share in the co-ownership shall accrue to the absolute community or conjugal partnership existing in such valid marriage.” The last paragraph of Article 147 provides the way the donated land can be forfeited in favor of the ACP between you and your husband. That paragraph says:
When only one of the parties to a void marriage is in good faith, the share of the party in bad faith in the co-ownership shall be forfeited in favor of their common children. In case of default of or waiver by any or all of the common children or their descendants, each vacant share shall belong to the respective surviving descendants. In the absence of descendants, such share shall belong to the innocent party. In all cases, the forfeiture shall take place upon termination of the cohabitation.
An indirect way of pressuring your husband (to return the land, and if not, at least its monetary value) is for you to file cases under RA 9262 “Anti-Violence Against Women and Their Children Act of 2004”. Please read my RA 9262 posts (look for the links in the sidebar).
Good day attorney!
I expected that you would know that the situation given was not for real, but still you impressed me on how you deal with those asking for your help and on how you analyze our questions. I read that question you are talking about and I think it would be one of my classmates or in the other section. I hope you can forgive me in giving the situation as if it is for real, it’s not my intention not to tell the truth, I just wanted to blend or imagine myself in the situation that is given to us.
Thank you very much in answering my question and I will never forget that there is Atty. Gerry Galacio, one of the impressive lawyers! Thank you so much! ^__^
Atty. tanong ko lang po. May sister-in-law is a mistress right now dahil kasal at may anak yung boyfriend niya. Gusto siyang ilayo ng mga in-laws ko pero sumama pa rin ang sister-in-law ko dun sa boyfriend niya. FYI may anak sila na more than 2 yrs old and now she will give birth to another one. sobrang kahihiyan yung binibigay niya sa in-laws ko and they want to file a case. Pwede po ba yun? Gusto nilang isa-ayos ang buhay ng sister-in-law ko at maproteksyonan ang mga bata.
MY sister-in-laws reasons ay gusto daw niyang mabuo ang family niya at nagfile na rin daw ng annulment yung wife ng boyfriend niya.
I need your advice on what we can do legally.
thank you and more power!
You did not mention what your own brother is doing about this situation. He is the one who should file any case of adultery against his wife (your sister-in-law).
What you and your in-laws can possibly file is for termination of parental authority and for custody of the kids to be granted to them. Please read my posts on “Can a mother be deprived of custody of her child” and “Custody battles over children: what determines fitness of a parent over another?” (look for the links in the sidebar).
i have a question, my husband had an affair. he is an OFW and he had an affair in dubai, the girl was married as well and she had the girl pregnant. he went home in the philippines and told me about it. i was devastated and dont know what to do. according to your previous blog, i can file a case against him but he need to be in the country before i can do that. what if he is abroad and doesnt have any plans of gaoing back in the philippines? what actions can i take? and about his illegitimate child, what can type of support can he get from my huband? financially, how much can the kid get? would it be bigger from what im getting for my kid?
thanks so much
As long as your husband is abroad, you will have problems in filing a criminal case against him. This is because he is outside the jurisdiction of Philippine courts. Even if you are able to file a case against him, the case will be archived (sent to the records) until the time when your husband goes home and gets arrested, OR voluntarily submits himself to the jurisdiction of the court by posting bail, for example.
You can inquire from the Department of Foreign Affairs as to what steps you can take to have your husband’s passport revoked so that he will be forced to come back here.
As to support, please read my post “support for abandoned woman and family” (look for the link in the sidebar). The amount of support is balanced between the necessities of the person asking for support and the financial capability of the person from whom support is being asked. Support shall be reduced or increased proportionately, according to the reduction or increase of the necessities of the recipient and the resources or means of the person obliged to furnish the same.
This means that if the needs of the illegitimate child are greater than the needs of your child, then the illegitimate child can demand for a higher support.
reading the revised penal code, is destierro applicable to a wife who killed her husband because she caught him with a diffrent woman in bed?
good day atty
- my father has an affair which they had a 10 yr old daughter together. and we knew he has had several affairs since i was in 4th grade
- my father never gave enough financial support to us
- he provides for his concubine, he even bought 10 taxi units and placed the franchise under his concubine's name
what legal actions can i take against my father since i am 31 yrs old now?
can my mother claim full ownership of the taxi units despite the fact that it is under the concubine's name?it's very obvious that the concubine cannot afford to buy even 1 taxi unit because we are very much aware of her personal financial status- she is our neighbor.
thank you po.
Your mother should consider filing RA 9262 “Anti-Violence Against Women and Their Children Act of 2004” cases against your father. Please read my RA 9262 posts (look for the links in the sidebar). RA 9262 cases can only be filed by children below 18 years of age. It is your mother who should file these cases.
The property relations between your father and the mistress are governed by Article 148 of the Family Code. The said article states:
In cases of cohabitation not falling under the preceding Article, only the properties acquired by both of the parties through their actual joint contribution of money, property, or industry shall be owned by them in common in proportion to their respective contributions. In the absence of proof to the contrary, their contributions and corresponding shares are presumed to be equal. The same rule and presumption shall apply to joint deposits of money and evidences of credit.
If one of the parties is validly married to another, his or her share in the co-ownership shall accrue to the absolute community or conjugal partnership existing in such valid marriage. If the party who acted in bad faith is not validly married to another, his or her share shall be forfeited in the manner provided in the last paragraph of the preceding Article.
The foregoing rules on forfeiture shall likewise apply even if both parties are in bad faith.
In terms of the forfeiture process, the last paragraph of Article 147 provides:
When only one of the parties to a void marriage is in good faith, the share of the party in bad faith in the co-ownership shall be forfeited in favor of their common children. In case of default of or waiver by any or all of the common children or their descendants, each vacant share shall belong to the respective surviving descendants. In the absence of descendants, such share shall belong to the innocent party. In all cases, the forfeiture shall take place upon termination of the cohabitation.
Your mother should, if there is no intention to file a petition for declaration of nullity of their marriage, at the very least, disinherit your father (read my post on “disinheriting a spouse”) and file a petition for separation of property.
The problem with the provisions of Articles 147 and 148 is that the forfeiture process whereby you and your family can claim your father’s share will take place upon the “termination of the cohabitation” (meaning, upon either death or separation between your father and the mistress).
One possible course of action is for your mother to file a civil case for damages under RA 9262 against your father.
Please consult other lawyers who may have opinions different from mine or who may be able to suggest alternative courses of actions.
You are referring to a situation covered by Article 247 of the Revised Penal Code which states:
Death or physical injuries inflicted under exceptional circumstances. - Any legally married person who having surprised his spouse in the act of committing sexual intercourse with another person, shall kill any of them or both of them in the act or immediately thereafter, or shall inflict upon them any serious physical injury, shall suffer the penalty of destierro.
If he shall inflict upon them physical injuries of any other kind, he shall be exempt from punishment.
These rules shall be applicable, under the same circumstances, to parents with respect to their daughters under eighteen years of age, and their seducer, while the daughters are living with their parents.
As you can read, under these circumstances, there is no criminal liability if the offender (either the husband or the wife) does not kill or inflict serious physical injuries on the spouse and/or the partner. If death or serious physical injuries is inflicted, then the penalty is destierro.
The bone of contention with this article of the RPC is what the term "immediately thereafter" mean. The Supreme Court decision in the 1987 case of People vs. Abarca is quite controversial.
Good Day Atty. I would like to consult my case. I was married 1997 and after almost 3yrs weve separated. we have 2 children. we've never had a communication for almost 10years. My problem right now is I already a found a man that I truly fell in love with. We want to start our own family. But im worried if I got pregnant what surname can my child use? Can my husband sue me and my partner with adultery? hoping for your advice. TIA
Good Day Sir,
I have read all the conversation and advises posted and I would like to to try and is begging for you attention to give me some advises. My problem was almost the same sir. But siguro kasi po I am the son that why its somewhat difference. Case po namin is ganito. 10 years ago, my father got a mistress in Saudi. Halos di na niya po kami suportahan and that time kami po ng kapatid ko eh nagaaral. In short po Sir, naghiwalay po parents ko. My mother was forced to work to support our studies. After this few years sir, umuwi po ang father ko and start harrassing my mother. All my fathers relative start harrasing my mother. What we want was peaceful life. Per ang nagyayari po Sir parang pinagmamalaki po ng father ko and family niya na me kabit po siya and nagmumukha pong kawawa ang mother ko at kami po ng kapaitd ko. My mother got informed that my father and his girl got married in Saudi Arabia and they have false declared ang marriage nila ng mother ko..Di ko po alam paano nila ginwa..But the girl and my father live is Saudi for sometime, pero umuwi na po iyong girl dito sa pinas and me bahay po sila ng father ko. In short living together. Sir advise lang po sana what rights can we exercise? Could we forced our father to give my mother financial support? Ala na po kasi trabaho mother ko though meron na po kaming trabahong magkapatid and we are the one supporting her. Sa mga relatives po ng father ko na nagtotolerate ng ginagawang mali eversince po? Alam po nila na babae ng father ko pero pinatuloy po nila sa haws nila, considering po na kapitbahay lang po naman sila?. Me makakaso po ba ako sa father ko and sa relatives niya? How about po sa girl? She knew eversince na kasal po ang father ko? What po the best option could we exercise? ...Salamat po sa advise sir. We dont have enough earning po kasi to pay lawyer. kaya po sana tulungan niyo po kami.Naaawa na po ako sa mother ko, me cancer po kasi ang mama..Dagdag po eh emotionally, depressed po siya because of my fathers relative, actions po na pinangangalandakan sa barangay po namin iyong babae niya..I thank you po in advance sir...Salamat po...
Rowell
Dear Atty,
I am single and have a son from a married man. It was a long distance relationship that I never knew the man I had an affair was married since he told me he was single. Is there any way to file my ex bf of psychological violence. Its really been diffuclt what I have been through after knwoing that he was married since her wife called me over the phone. Now the problem is he is living outside Philippined but got a dual citizenship in a particular country. Any advise what to do on my part on behalf of my child and what he has done to me.
regards,
Ms. Dee
Anonymous said...
Hi Attorney,
This is the case which my son is facing. Two weeks ago, a written complaint was filed against my son(19 years old last August 25) in the barangay where we belong, asking for child support for a child born last August 31, 2009 to his ex-girlfriend. My son told me that sometime in the third week of December 2008 when he was alone at home, the girl who lives several blocks away came to our house and it was then that the sex act happened. My son also told me that the girl told him that she has a previous boyfriend from which she has broken-up with in November and that they also had sex prior to their breakup. Now I am counting the months and I computed that if the girl gave birth in August 31 and my son got her pregnant, the child must be premature because if the child is full term then it is not my son’s child. Basically, my concern is that the girl is pinning my son for the child which is not his. The case is still with the Barangay and the Captain warned me that if not settled there, the case might escalate into a rape case filed by the girl against my son. The girl, by the way, is a minor of 17 years of age. I would like to seek your advice on how to proceed with the case. If ever it is proven that my son is the father, can my son be required to give child support even if he is not capable, being a student? Are we as parents liable to give child support in lieu of our son?
Please advise.
Thank you in advance.
Rowell,
As I already discussed in this post and my replies to the comments, your mother, you and your sister (if you are below 18) can file “psychological violence” case under RA 9262.
If you and/or your sister are above 18, you can file civil case for damages against your father under the Human relations section of the New Civil Code of the Philippines (Articles 19 to 36).
If the case to be filed is criminal, then you do not need to retain the services of a private lawyer. You just need help in preparing the criminal complaint to be filed with the fiscal’s office. You can file the complaint with the Women and Children’s Concerns desk of the nearest police station. The desk officer will then endorse the complaint with the fiscal’s office.
OR, you can ask the help of the PAO in preparing and filing the complaint with the fiscal’s office.
If the case is filed in court, the fiscal assigned to the court will be your lawyer. The fiscal is a government employee and so you do not need to pay him/her.
For free legal assistance, please contact the DOJ Action Center. The DOJAC acts on complaints, requests for assistance and legal queries of walk-in clients of the DOJ. For legal assistance please visit the Department of Justice Action Center (DOJAC) Main Office, Ground Floor, Multi-Purpose Building, Padre Faura Street, Ermita, Manila; Telephone no: 523-84-81; Email Address: dojac@doj.gov.ph or visit any Regional/Provincial/City Prosecution Offices in your town or city.
For any emergency regarding your mother’s situation, please contact the Melissawatch hotline of the DSWD through www.dswd.gov.ph. I am not sure if the mobile phone for this hotline for abused women is still current or not but try 0917-503-4264.
TIA,
1. The issue really is not what the surname of the child will be BUT whether the child will be considered legitimate or illegitimate. Please read my post “If a wife gets pregnant by a man not her husband, will the child be legitimate or illegitimate?” (look for the link in the sidebar).
2. Since you are still legally married, you can be charged with adultery.
Ms. Dee,
As long as the man is outside the Philippines, our courts do not have any jurisdiction over him. You can try filing a criminal case under RA 9262 against him with the fiscal’s office. If and when the case is filed in court, the case will issue a warrant of arrest and the records then archived (in layman’s terms, set aside for the meantime). If and when the man is arrested (for example, he comes back here to the Philippines and you are able to have him arrested through that warrant), the case will be revived.
Or, once the court issues a warrant of arrest, you can coordinate with the Department of Foreign Affairs as to how his Philippine passport can be cancelled. This is problematic however since he is a dual citizen.
Or, you can file a civil case for damages under RA 9262. You can do this either (1) once he comes home here and together with the case, you can ask the court to issue a Hold Departure Order; or (2) if he has real properties here in the Philippines, you can file what is known as a ‘quasi in rem” case. You will be asking the court to attach these properties which will answer for whatever damages the court may award to you.
sorry atty. I forgot to mention my name. Im cherry. Uve mistaken my name as TIA. Dat stands for Thanks In Advance. Anyway thanks for answering my query. Jst a followup question. What if my partner acknowledge our child? Am i alowed to register our child to use my surname wen i was single as his/her midle name den my partners surname as his/her surname? Is there any consequence in doing it? 2nd we (me and ex-husband) have a mutual agriment dat we'll live our separate lives. Is it posible to formalize it? I min having a formal leter hav it signed by both of us den notarized. Can it be a proof in court if in case he sue me for an adultery? Thanks again.
Cherry,
1. Please read my post “What surname should illegitimate children use? Problems and issues with RA 9255 and its implementing guidelines” (look for the link in the sidebar; read also the comments and my replies to the comments).
2. That document between you and your husband is immoral, illegal and without legal effect (as the Supreme Court has ruled as early as 1937). Please read my post “Can a husband and wife in a notarized document declare that they are free to marry other persons and they will not file charges against each other? (look for the link in the sidebar).
good day attorney..may tatanong lang po ako..nsa america po ako ngyon my husband admitted to me that his having an affair ...buntis po ung babae with twins and they are living together..i went back to the philippines to try to fix our family pero as soon as i came back po dito nalaman ko na habang nandun po ako pinupuntahan nya pa ung babae dahil mag ka live in pala sila..alam po ng neighbors nila na kabit nya po ung babaeng un at nabuntis nga..ano pong case ang ifafile ko may balak po kasi akong umuwi ng philippines to file a case againts him..may anak po kami 1 girl..hanggang ngyon po mag ka live in pa rin sila ng kabit nya kasal po kami attorney ano pong case ang dapat kong ifile!!!
As I discussed in this post, it is much better to file a “psychological violence” case under RA 9262 rather than concubinage under the Revised Penal Code.
You can retain the services of a lawyer who will help you file a criminal complaint with the fiscal’s office. OR, you can go to the Women and Children’s Concerns Desk officer of the nearest PNP station and you can file your complaint there.
I am a Christian man with strong religious beliefs and I live by GODS word. At Matthew ch. 19 vs. 9, Jesus gave provision for a mate to divorce their spouse on the grounds of fornication/adultery. How is it that the government of the Philippines place themselves above the Government of GOD by not allowing such? Are mere human men higher than the GOD whom they profess to serve? I think not and judicial change is far beyond past due in the Philippines. These unrighteous laws that are imposed upon these people are the cause of much unhappiness and are utterly unfair to these poor women who have unfaithful husbands.
gud day atty...
My friend got married last 2008 dec. she suffered a lot from her husband who different vices since they were already married.They stayed at her family house but later, her husband sister pushed her away to stay not in thier house so she rented a boarding house.Her husband went with her after a month. without one year of staying as husband and wife, the guy went abroad and never gave support to my friend, even a single centavo. With those experiences with her husband, he obtained physical injuries, word uttering hindi karapat dapat sabihin sa isang asawa. They live as husband and wife without one year because i have said the guy went abroad. There was a manifestation that the husband is having an affair with other woman there, until the my friend wants their marriage to be nulled and void since they do not have a child and they live only in a very short term of their marriage life. Is is possible for them to separate legally? As of this time they are both n abroad living together but no sexual intercourse because they live with that another woman in one apartment. wat would be the legal action she might be filling to revoke their marriage. As of now my friend has alraedy a boyfriend who is single and want to marry her. Is ther any file to be sue agaist this single guy if my fried will go back here in the country and they will live together as live in partner? Hope you could help my friend attorney.and hope that my friend could also read this blog. ur site atty is a very gud one.. This could help a lot of people seeking for advise legally. tanx a lot and more power.....
rock
greetings atty,
i discovered that my wife is cheating on me when she accidentally left her email account open and i read on her messages. There are chat messages with her other man that she stores in her email folders.These messages are so obscene that just thinking about it, nadidiri ako sa kanya. Kaya naman pala sobrang cold sya sa kin e dahil may iba pala syang lalaki at foreigner pa. Hindi ko na lang pinansin dahil naaawa ako sa mga anak ko pero i kept a copy of those chat messages just in case. Lately I decided that I really cannot live with her anymore, i need to move on and find that one person na irerespect ako at ang pagkalalaki ko. Pwede ko bang gamiting grounds for annulment yung mga messages na yun as proof of adultery? Ang problema nga lang ay luma na ang mga yun dated 2007 pa pero alam kong hanggang ngayon patuloy pa din sila. maraming salamat po.
Rock,
As to having the marriage declared null and void, please read the Frequently Asked Questions section of my Family Matters website.
Please also read my posts below (look for the links in the sidebar):
Amy Perez case: Psychological incapacity in annulment of marriages
Sexual infidelity or promiscuity does not constitute psychological incapacity
Irreconcilable differences not a ground for declaring a marriage null and void
What happens in an annulment case if the respondent fails to file an Answer?
As to what cases can be filed against your friend, I already discussed this issue in this post.
Please read my post “Sexual infidelity or promiscuity does not constitute psychological incapacity” (look for the link in the sidebar). The Supreme Court has ruled that marital infidelity BY ITSELF does not constitute psychological incapacity.
As to what grounds you can use to have your marriage declared null and void, please read the FAQ section of www.familymatters.org.ph
To the American married to a Filipino and planning to go to Cebu:
I deleted your post because of your comments about how you got your annulment. Anyway, here is my answer about your fears.
Please surf to my website www.familymatters.org.ph and read “Rule on Declaration of Absolute Nullity of Void Marriages and Annulment of Voidable Marriages” under the Legal Procedures section.
Section 23 of the Rule states:
Registration and publication of the decree; decree as best evidence. –
(a) The prevailing party shall cause the registration of the Decree in the Civil Registry where the marriage was registered, the Civil Registry of the place where the Family Court is situated, and in the National Census and Statistics Office. He shall report to the court compliance with this requirement within thirty days from receipt of the copy of the Decree.
(b) In case service of summons was made by publication, the parties shall cause the publication of the Decree once in a newspaper of general circulation.
(c) The registered Decree shall be the best evidence to prove the declaration of absolute nullity or annulment of marriage and shall serve as notice to third persons concerning the properties of petitioner and respondent as well as the properties or presumptive legitimes delivered to their common children.
As you can read, the registered decree is the best evidence to prove that the marriage has been declared null and void. Ask the lawyer who handled your case to give to you a certified true copy of this registered decree. We’re not talking here about a copy of the court decision. What you need is a copy of the registered decree from the NSO (National Statistics Office).
Hi Atty,
Many Thanks for the reply. Can I just confirm - the registered decree - is that the decree as per the marriage certificate? We have an annotated MC from the NSO stating that the marriage is declared null and void. Is there any other decree needed to prove validity of the annulment?
Also - secondly - in your opinion will divorce become legal in the Philippines in the future?
Since we are married in the USA, should we register the wedding at the Philippine Embassy in the US - to prevent any case where accusations of adultery are made.
I really appreciate your time on this and your replies.
Best Wishes
[1] The decree is the final and executory court judgment. According to the Supreme Court Rule, that decree must be registered with the NSO, among other offices. The marriage certificate with the annotation strictly speaking is not the registered decree. But the certified true copy of the annotated marriage certificate is good enough to prevent the filing of any adultery case against you and/or your wife.
[2] Divorce is unlikely to become legal in the Philippines because of the intense opposition of the Roman Catholic Church.
[3] I do not know the US procedure when it comes to marriages involving non-US citizens, as to whether the embassy or consulate is informed or not. But there probably isn’t a record with the NSO as to your marriage. You can inquire through the Philippine embassy there or the NSO website www.census.gov.ph as to how you can have your US marriage registered with the NSO.
Hello Atty.
I would like to inquire about filing concubinage case.
The woman is working abroad, he visit home only once in 2 years, but she never fails to support her family, she bought house, land/rice fields and everything the family have now. she was working abroad for more than 15 years, and while she is far, her husband is cheating on her, he has a mistress. he started this afair just 2 years after she left for abroad, means they are almost 15 yrs also. they dont live together, coz the man still come to their own house, but almost everynight, he brings the mistress to their house. The son and daughter of the couple are now in abroad also, so the only person staying in that house is the grandmother - mother of the man. she is tolerating the affair of his son and mistress. the legitimate family doesnt know if the son of the mistress is son of the man. and since the legitimate family is out of country, now the worst case is the family of he man is tolerating this affair. the family wants to sue their father and they want their father to loose job. the man is working as a supervisor in DEPED. please advice what case they should file and what kind of evidence they need to gather for the case. Thank yu so much and God bless you Atty.
Tisyang
gudpm atty.,
i am 30 years old and a battered wife. kinasal po ako nung 2006 meron po akon 2 anak na lalaki. last 2008 po nag file po ako n VAWC sa aking asawa dahil sa pananakit niya po sakin, hangang ngayon po e wala pa pong resolution yung kaso namin sa 1taon po na pahihintay puro pananakot pa din po ang naranasan ko sa hiwaly ko na asawa. nayon nabalitaan ko na me kabit po siya at kapitbahay lang po nila. atty pwede ko po bang kausapin yung kabit niya at panu po kung nasampal ko po siya madedemanda po ba ako? sa 1 taon po na yunwala pong sustento samin ang asawa ko. pwede ko pa po bang dagdagan ang kaso niya dahil sobra po ang ginawa niya samin ng mga anak niya pwede ko pa po bang pa open ang kaso at magdagda n affidavit ko? wala po kasi akong atty kaya po humuhingi po sana ako sa inyo n advice at kun me kabit po siya kelangan pa po ba ng ebidensiya e siya po mismo an nakalat sa mga kabarakada niya na meron napo siyang ibang babae? san po matulunan niyo ako para po eto sa mga anak ko at katarungan sakin na inabuso.
Tisyang,
As I discussed in this post, it is much better to file a “psychological violence” case under RA 9262 than “concubinage” under the Revised Penal Code. The woman should either retain the services of a private lawyer who will help her file the complaint with the fiscal’s office. OR, the woman can ask for help in filing the complaint with the following offices:
Philippine National Police (PNP) Women and Children’s Concern Division (WCCD) Tel. No.: (02) 723-0401 loc. 3480 Call or text 117 (PATROL 117)
National Bureau of Investigation (NBI) Violence Against Women and Children’s Desk (VAWCD) Tel. Nos.: (02) 523-8231 loc. 3403
DOJ Public Attorney’s Office Women's Desk, Tel. Nos.: (02) 929-9010; 929-9436 to 37
The woman and her children can also file administrative cases against the man with the DEpEd.
Whether criminal or administrative case, you need to have the evidence. It is doubtful that the man’s mother will testify against him. You need to hire a private detective to collect the necessary evidence against the man.
Battered wife,
I already answered your e-mail.
Thank you very much atty. you are a great help. as a follow up question...what kind of evidence does the complainant needs to get?what is the heaviest evidence as proof to the case?
Again thank you for your prompt reply.
Tisyang
Tisyang,
Private detectives are experts in getting evidence for this kind of case. Just tell them that you need proof of your father’s cohabitation with this woman.
Hi Atty,
I've been reading your responses and the different situations put forward here by your readers. I guess, It made me think of really getting a Pre-Nuptial Agreement at least.
Please advise me on these issues for the Pre-Nup:
1. If I choose to have a Pre-Nuptial Agreement drawn up, what regime could help secure that my child would not be left penniless while my husbands other family (in case of his infidelity) would reap all the benefits from him. Even though the properties which he would like to transfer to them was actually acquired though out our marriage (with the effort of both me and my husband).
2. Can a trust be created for our son/daughter(s) or would the trust be superseded by the provisions of the Family Code, and the liquidation of the assets still be passed on to my husband's other family (in case of infidelity).
and -
3. How much would the fees be for creating the Pre-Nuptial Agreement?
Hoping to hear from you.
Thanks.
bride-to-be,
Viable options would be either (A) complete separation of property between you and your spouse, with your ante-nuptial agreement laying out how you and your future husband will divide the costs and expenses for your kids, or (B) conjugal partnership of gains.
I stand to be corrected but I heard that option A (complete separation of property) was the chosen property regime between megastar Sharon Cuneta and Sen. Pangilinan.
Can a trust be created for our son/daughter(s) or would the trust be superseded by the provisions of the Family Code, and the liquidation of the assets still be passed on to my husband's other family (in case of infidelity).
This a little bit technical and you will have to inquire from trust companies as to the mechanics. I suppose the scenario that is bothering you might arise if the property regime between you and your future spouse is absolute community of property. But if choose complete separation of property and you both agreed to contribute to the trust from your exclusive funds, the scenario might not arise.
Please take note also that should your future spouse ever become unfaithful to you during your marriage, the property relations between him and the other woman will be governed by Article 148 of the Family Code. The said article states:
In cases of cohabitation not falling under the preceding Article, only the properties acquired by both of the parties through their actual joint contribution of money, property, or industry shall be owned by them in common in proportion to their respective contributions. In the absence of proof to the contrary, their contributions and corresponding shares are presumed to be equal. The same rule and presumption shall apply to joint deposits of money and evidences of credit.
If one of the parties is validly married to another, his or her share in the co-ownership shall accrue to the absolute community or conjugal partnership existing in such valid marriage. If the party who acted in bad faith is not validly married to another, his or her share shall be forfeited in the manner provided in the last paragraph of the preceding Article.
The foregoing rules on forfeiture shall likewise apply even if both parties are in bad faith.
What Article 148 is saying is that in case the extramarital affair ends, your husband’s share in the partnership property acquired in that affair, will go to the conjugal property between you and him. Moreover, the other woman must prove that she actually contributed money, property or industry in acquiring these properties. If it is proven that they all came from your husband, such will eventually go to the conjugal property between you and him.
Please take note also no legal document can ever cover all the bases, so to speak. There will always be some loophole or some situation you did not anticipate or conceive.
Besides, as some people say, insisting on an ante-nuptial agreement is just like planting the seeds of a future separation between the spouses.
As to the costs, you have to ask the lawyer-notary public who will draft the agreement for you.
Please take time to read my Salt and Light blog www.-salt-and-light-.blogspot.com articles on martial infidelity:
Marital infidelity: causes, consequences and conclusions
Surviving Marital Infidelity
The grass is not greener on the other side
"Sad Movies Always Make Me Cry"
Priceless counsel from a bargain sale book: “How to save your marriage alone”
Thanks so much Atty. Galacio for your advice on this matter.
My husband and I have been married for 19 years already. We just separated 3 months ago and now I would like to file for a legal separation. Eight years ago, he had an affair with another woman and had a love child with her. Although I would like to separate with him when I learned about it, I had no choice but to live with him for the sake of our kids. I was helpless then coz I just gave birth to our second son (who is just 3 months younger than my husband's illegitimate child).I have with me the birth certificate of their love child where my husband's signature was affixed since he acknowledged the child in the birth certificate. My question is, it is only after 8 years that I've come to realize that I'm not happy with him anymore and that I've decided to file a legal separation, will his infidelity still be considered a ground for filing such a case even if it happened 8 yrs ago? Aside from this, although I was not physically abused by my husband since during our fight I don't provoke him, I have been emotionally and psychologically abused since my husband would always shout at me and say unpleasant words to me in front of other people and in front of our children, he would call me his "palamunin" during our fight and I believe he has no respect for me as his wife.
thanks
Please take note of the differences among (1) legal separation, (2) annulment of voidable marriage, and (3) declaration of nullity in the Frequently asked Questions section of www.familymatters.org.ph
In legal separation, your marriage ties will not be terminated. You will still be married and you will still be obligated to use your husband’s surname.
The grounds for legal separation are found in Article 55of the Family Code. The grounds are:
(1) Repeated physical violence or grossly abusive conduct directed against the petitioner, a common child, or a child of the petitioner;
(2) Physical violence or moral pressure to compel the petitioner to change religious or political affiliation;
(3) Attempt of respondent to corrupt or induce the petitioner, a common child, or a child of the petitioner, to engage in prostitution, or connivance in such corruption or inducement;
(4) Final judgment sentencing the respondent to imprisonment of more than six years, even if pardoned;
(5) Drug addiction or habitual alcoholism of the respondent;
(6) Lesbianism or homosexuality of the respondent;
(7) Contracting by the respondent of a subsequent bigamous marriage, whether in the Philippines or abroad;
(8) Sexual infidelity or perversion;
(9) Attempt by the respondent against the life of the petitioner; or
(10) Abandonment of petitioner by respondent without justifiable cause for more than one year.
Article 57 of the Family Code states however that an action for legal separation shall be filed within five years from the time of the occurrence of the cause. Since the sexual infidelity took place eight years ago, then you can no longer file a petition for legal separation. You can however still possibly file civil or criminal cases under RA 9262 against your husband. Please read my RA 9262 posts (look for the links in the sidebar).
Dear Atty Gelacio,
Medyo complicated yung case ko. In 2000 I met a man and naging boyfriend ko sya. Ang explanation nya sakin noon eh legally separated sila ng asawa nya. Tinanggap ko yun and naging mag boyfriend kami ng 2 years. After ng 2 years na grant na yung petition ko sa US so lumipat ako ng US. Nawala na yung communication namin nung guy. This year biglang may nag email sakin asking about him and ang pakilala is sya yung wife and kahit kailan hindi sila nag hiwalay ng asawa nya. Sinagot ko lahat ng tanong nya and sinabi ko ang totoo na naging boyfriend ko sya pero hindi ko alam na hindi pala sila legally separated. Now ginugulo ako nung girl kahit nasa States na ako pati ang buong family ko. Tinatakot nya pa ako na idedemanda nya ako. Attorney, balak kong umuwi sa Pilipinas next year para bisitahin ang mga kamag anak ko. May laban po ba sya? May chance ba na makulong ako? Hindi po ako binahay nung lalaki nung nandyan po ako sa Pilipinas.
I already answered your e-mail.
Dear Atty. Galacio,
Salamat po sa napaka helpful nyong blog. Gusto ko lang pong itanong kung pwedeng mag-file ng criminal charge under RA9262 yung kahit sinong myembro ng pamilya nung offended na babae or valid lang sya kung yung mismong offended na babae lang ang magfa-file? Salamat po.
I have to make clarifications with my answer to your question.
[1] RA 9262 can be filed by the affected woman AND/OR by her children below 18. Please read my RA 9262 posts (look for the links in the sidebar). Take note of the definition of “violence against women and their children” especially the boldfaced portion.
"Violence against women and their children" refers to any act or a series of acts committed by any person against a woman who is his wife, former wife, or against a woman with whom the person has or had a sexual or dating relationship, or with whom he has a common child, or against her child whether legitimate or illegitimate, within or without the family abode, which result in or is likely to result in physical, sexual, psychological harm or suffering, or economic abuse including threats of such acts, battery, assault, coercion, harassment or arbitrary deprivation of liberty.
This means that if the violence is committed against the children by the father, ex-father, the woman’s live-in partner, etc, the offended children can file the RA 9262 case.
[2] If the violence is committed against the woman, then the party that should really file the case is the offended woman herself. However, Section 25 of RA 9262 provides that “violence against women and their children shall be considered a public offense which may be prosecuted upon the filing of a complaint by any citizen having personal knowledge of the circumstances involving the commission of the crime.”
This means that any person who has personal knowledge of the crime against the woman can file the case. For example, the child who sees the mother being beaten up by the father can file the case since RA 9262 is a public offense.
The problem however arises during the trial. If the woman refuses to testify or even testifies that she was not beaten up, then the case will fall apart.
[3] The following are offices or agencies you can ask help from. The addresses are for Metro Manila but you can try to contact their regional offices (specially the NBI).
Department of Social Welfare and Development (DSWD)Crisis Intervention Unit (CIU) Rehabilitation Unit Tel. No.: (02) 734-8635 NCR Ugnayang Pag-asa, Legarda, Manila Tel. Nos.: (02) 734-8617 to 18
Philippine National Police (PNP) Women and Children’s Concern Division (WCCD) Tel. No.: (02) 723-0401 loc. 3480 Call or text 117 (PATROL 117)
National Bureau of Investigation (NBI) Violence Against Women and Children’s Desk (VAWCD) Tel. Nos.: (02) 523-8231 loc. 3403
DOJ Public Attorney’s Office Women's Desk, Tel. Nos.: (02) 929-9010; 929-9436 to 37
Good day attorney,
I have a wife we are separated (not legally) and 2 children in philippines. which i supported monthly with my monthly salary here in korea.. and I left my wife with 8 computers to start a business with..she gets 23 thousand, plus the monthly income of the computers which i think is far enough to provide their needs and wants monthly..
but ive heard that my kids are not taking care well and not giving what they supposed to have.and recently my families and neighbors told me that she is having an affair and that most of the time she's not home with our sons and that she has alot of depts in our ninang and friends and the credit card i left has riched its credit limit or 100 thousand for only using it in a short time. so I decided to not give her the my monthly support and decided to give it to my older sister so she can manage the money and give the right needs for my kids...but shes very angry at me right now and she said that she's going to sue me if i cant give her the money but i cant trust her the money. i worked hard for that money and i dont see my kids well put together.
i just seperated the needs of my kids and her needs she can have the income of our business but im not letting her take away what's for my kids
my question is...
can she sue me for that and what case?
and what are my rights???
Your wife can sue your for violations of RA 9262 “Anti-Violence Against Women and Their Children Act of 2004” (please my posts on RA 9262; look for the links in the sidebar). You can of course defend yourself in whatever case she will file. You must be able to prove (by bank statements, fro example or by the testimony of your children) that you are providing for their financial needs.
In order to no longer be obligated to support your wife, you can for example file a petition for legal separation under Articles 55 to 67 of the Family Code. If your petition for legal separation (which is different from annulment or declaration of nullity), your wife will no longer have the right to ask support from you or to inherit from you.
One other option that you have is to file a petition for judicial separation of property between you and your wife. You can at the same time disinherit your wife (please read my post on disinheriting a spouse; look for the link in the sidebar).
Please consult other lawyers who may have opinions different from mine or who may be able to suggest alternative courses of actions.
Good day to you atty. I just want to clarify of what somebody says that if you caught the wife in the act having extra-marital affair or having sexual intercourse with her pamour, and you both murder them will the husband prosecuted under specific law?
Yes, the husband will be charged under Article 247 "Death or physical injuries inflicted under exceptional circumstances" of the Revised Penal Code.
Actually, Article 247 uses the word "spouse" and not husband. This means that it may be the wife who kills or injures the husband if she catches him in the act of having sexual relations with another person. The article also applies to parents with respect to their daughters below 18 and their seducers.
The leading Supreme Court decision regarding Article 247 is the 1987 case of "People versus Abarca" involving a couple from Leyte.
In relation to Article 247 RPC, please take note of the provisions of RA 9262 on the "Battered Woman Syndrome" as a complete defense in criminal cases. Please read my RA 9262 posts (look for the links in the sidebar). A woman who kills or injures her husband, live-in partner or boyfriend, can be declared not guilty if the court establishes through the findings of psychiatrists or psychologists that she is suffering from the Battered Woman Syndrome. You can read about this in the Supreme Court decision involving Marivic Genosa.
hi atty..just want to ask clarificatory questions..what hapens if the husband filed for annulment against the wife and subsequently filed again another case for adultery against the wife..pls give your legal thougths on this..thank u
atty i have a daughter to a married man wat rights does my child have.
As long as the petition for declaration of nullity has not been granted by the court, the husband and wife are still married. Thus, the husband still has the right to file adultery cases against the wife.
What if my wife and I filed an annulment 7 years ago and thought it was successful but after 7 years we figured out that the annulment was never filed. And now I'm with someonelse but not married. But my wife doesn't want to refile the case. Can she file concubinage against me?
I got pregnant by a married guy who is still living with his wife.
Our love child is using my last name and her dad is not even on the BC nor signed on the birth certificate.
I am asking for sustento for our daughter but he would always say no. I definitely want him to help me with the child’s expenses however what’s holding me back is the wife. I was thinking that if I keep on pushing him to give us a sustento baka magalit ang wife at kasuhan ako.
But reading your article gives me hope..
“If the evidence merely proves that the husband is having an extra-marital affair, that will not necessarily mean that he can be convicted of concubinage. If the mistress gets pregnant and gives birth, can that be used as evidence for concubinage against the husband? Again, please take note of how concubinage is committed as I discussed under numbers (1) up to (3). The pregnancy is not necessarily proof of cohabitation.”
Ngayon how can I oblige him to share expenses with our baby? And ilang percent po ba siya dapat?
Thank you
Legally, your wife can still file a concubinage case against you since you are still married to her.
Ahnn,
Please avoid multiple posting. This makes things difficult for me.
[1] In terms of support, please read my post “Support for abandoned woman and child” (look for the link in the sidebar). The Family Code does not provide for a specific percentage. You will have to prove what the needs are, and the man is allowed to prove what his financial capability is.
You can file a petition for compulsory recognition of your child as his illegitimate child coupled with a request for the issuance of a Protection Order for financial support. In the petition for compulsory recognition, you will ask the court to require the man and your daughter to undergo DNA testing. Please read my “DNA testing to prove legitimacy or illegitimacy of children; Supreme Court’s New Rule on DNA Evidence”. You will have to shoulder the costs for the DNA tests. If it is proven that indeed the man is the father, you can ask for reimbursement for whatever you have spent.
[2] As you have read, you cannot be charged with “adultery” since you are the other woman. The appropriate charge is “concubinage” but in this kind of case, the wife has to file the case against you AND her husband. As you have read, concubinage is committed in very specific ways. If your sexual relationship with this man does not fall under any of these ways, then there would be a problem in filing a concubinage case. (Please consult other lawyers who may have opinions different from mine or who may be able to suggest alternative courses of actions.)
[3] In the sidebar, I listed down the names and contact information of government agencies and offices (NBI, PNP, DSWD, etc) from which you can ask for help. Contact these offices.
I apologized for having multiple posts, I was so overwhelmed with all this handful information and also my queries depend on the topic. Anyway thank you for taking time in replying my inquiries. I had also read that I can send you email; then I should start doing that then.
My warmest appreciation again for having this website with free advices. Keep up the good job
HI ATTY..
WE WERE MARRIED IN DUBAI AND NOW GOT THE DECISION FROM RTC THAT WE ARE ANNULED..NOW GOIN BACK TO DUBAI.DO I STILL NEED TO GIVE COPY OF ANNULMENT TO OWWA OR CONSULATE IN DUBAI??WHEN WILL I GET A NEW SINGLENESS AFTER I GIVE THE RESULT OF ANNULMENT TO NSO AND OWWA?,THANKS IN ADVANCE..--G.
I already answered your e-mail.
My husband and I been living separately for three years now. We have talked about this, though we did not put it into writing that we will be living our own lives already (my daughter is living with me), given that he will provide things (financial and schooling) that our daughter needs (Php8,000/month and tuition fees). Believe it or not we are in good terms. I have a boyfriend at this point in time and believe it or not, mu husband knows about him and in fact, we are about to file an annulment, it's just that I do not have enough money yet to give my share (since we agreed na hati kami sa annulment expenses). Then, I am working somewhere here in Antipolo, but living in Valenzuela with my parents and my daughter. Last year, after Ondoy, my parents, together with my husband agreed that I can stay with my boyfriend who is living in Cainta area, because they find it very difficult for me na "uwian" everyday, and we just agreed na next school year (2010-2011), my daughter will be living with my husband na, para malapit na sa amin pareho (since he is from Marikina naman). Maayos na ang lahat, well-planned na and everything. Until yesterday, my boyfriend got an anonymous text stating that he is from the Legal Department of the company where my boyfriend is working and saying that they got a complaint from my husband na nagsasama na daw pala kami at may mga pictures daw kami na nakunan ng secret agent (together daw sa house at sa car, pati plate number sinabi ng anonymous texter) at sinabi niya sa boyfriend ko na "single ka pala, ingat ka, mabigat ang kaso niyo nyan." Sabi pa sa text na be prepared dahil anytime may pupunta daw sa branch niya (from Main office) o sa house to investigate. Tinawagan ko yung husband ko upon learning this at kinausap ko about it. Ang sabi ng husband ko wala daw siyang ginagawang ganun, maayos naman daw ang lahat sa amin bakit gagawin pa niya yun. Ayaw rin naman daw niya ng gulo kaya wala siyang balak manggulo. I believe him dahil for almost 3 years after namin naghiwalay ng tirahan ay maayos na maayos ang lahat until this anonymous text came along. Paniwalaan ko man ang text o hindi, i am worried for my loved ones. Ayoko ng gulo, lalo na kung makakaapekto sa work ng boyfriend ko. Mahirap ang buhay ngayon, baka mawalan siya ng trabaho dahil dito. Anong gagawin namin? Do you think may bearing ang lahat ng ito?
Salamat.
[1] “we are about to file an annulment, it's just that I do not have enough money yet to give my share (since we agreed na hati kami sa annulment expenses).”
This is called “collusion” and once this becomes known to the fiscal who will investigate your case and/or the judge who will handle the petition for declaration of nullity, your petition will be dismissed.
[2] If this turns out to be an extortion attempt against your boyfriend, you can ask the help of the NBI or the PNP.
Hello there, i have a friend who wants to sue his wife for adultery because she got pregnant with someone else, not by him, how much does is the legal fees for such matter and he lives in Canada, does he have to appear at court for that? Thank you
Joanna Marie
Joanna Marie,
Your friend has to come here to file the complaint with the fiscal’s office and later on appear in court.
1. Your friend has to prepare the complaint-affidavit through a lawyer. The fee for preparation of the complaint varies from lawyer to lawyer. Some lawyers may charge a fee to handle the complete preliminary investigation process (drafting and filing of the complaint, hearings, submission of other pleadings, etc). Or some lawyers may take on the whole process (preliminary investigation with the fiscal and later on, the court hearings).
Your friend can also file the complaint with the Criminal Investigation Division of the PNP station nearest the place where the adulterous act took place. This is free but some unscrupulous police investigators will charge an “under the table fee” for preparing the complaint and endorsing it to the fiscal’s office.
The affidavit is submitted to the fiscal’s office of the town or city where the adulterous act took place. There is a small filing fee paid to the administrative section of the fiscal’s office before the complaint is processed.
2. A criminal case is denominated as “People of the Philippines versus ____________” since it is the State that is ultimately the offended party. Your friend does not need to retain the services of a private lawyer once the case reaches the court. Each court has its own fiscal (equivalent to the District Attorney or DA in the US) who is in charge of the case and who will be your friend’s lawyer. The fiscal is a government employee and thus your friend does not need to pay him/her anything.
For the court hearings, your friend of course has the option of retaining the services of a private lawyer for several reasons: (1) he does not trust the integrity or competence of the fiscal; or (2) he knows a very good private lawyer.
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